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<blockquote data-quote="libranaster" data-source="post: 149137" data-attributes="member: 5154"><p>Awwwwww poor little darling give her a hug from me and tell her its from someone who understands. The problem with this is it is a genuine fear. I personally have suffered from depression and anxiety all my life. Yes I was born with it and I know that sounds kinda wierd but going through what you are with your daughter I am sure you get the picture. I don't have bad Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)'s or anything but I know how she feels sometimes my mental illness causes me to get a little obsessive and then sometimes it causes me to tune out entirely depends on the day week or month really. I choose to use the obsessive behaviour to my advantage. Like instead of going on mind numbing medication that made me feel like a zombie I will say in my head things like if I have a depressive thought I repeat to myself how silly it is over and over until I feel better. Or in the morning I will look in the mirror and repeat to myself something good about myself. You could see if she is able to do that too but I don't have an actual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) so it is easier for me. </p><p> </p><p>Just don't expect too much from her, set her the goal of ending the day thinking of something nice and anything else she does is just icing on the cake. </p><p> </p><p>I went through this terrible thing when I was 12 in science we learned about germs and what skin looks like under a microscope I spent like 4 months obsessively washing and feeling sick all the time and like ripping my skin off and as I said I don't have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) I just suffer from anxiety so may I suggest warning her high school not to have her present that day because that was seriously traumatising. </p><p> </p><p>I was about 11 when one day I realised I had to die and there was no getting out of it. The terror I felt was indiscribable and it is sad she has to feel that everyday. I didn't feel like I would live to be this age (I am 25) so the fact I have is a miracle to me and suprising and sometimes I am not quite sure what to do with myself as I never thought I would get here. These may be feelings she will have when she gets older too. Try to be understanding and loving is all I can say mental illness can destroy lives and good people.</p><p> </p><p>All I can suggest is if she will co operate put all your other children to bed and sit with her and talk about something nice before bed it may help. Talk about something that made you laugh that day or something you thought she did well it might help her break the mind set. Also don't be afraid to discuss death with her. If you have made arrangments for if that happened to you let her know what they are because she just wants to be in control of the situation and the more in control she feels the better for her. I know its hard and morbid but if a child is frightened they need to know they will be ok if that happened. My mum did that with us when we got to about the same age and started asking questions and it did make me feel a little bit better to know I would be looked after. </p><p> </p><p>Fears about her personal safety and death are different but I have a few things I still insist on in this house because you never know one of us might not walk back in that door. One we have to say goodbye and I love you before we leave so that if something happens thats the last thing we said. </p><p> </p><p>I am no expert and these are just suggestions if they are bull just stay doing what you are doing I am sure you are dealing just fine and the only thing I can think of telling her in regards to her own personal safety is if death wants to get you he would have to come through me first and there is no chance of that happening. </p><p> </p><p>I am like her extreamly frightened of death of myself or people I love and it is always there in the back of my mind even as an adult it sometimes occurs to me that I have to die and I freak out but I still live my life. Given its a wierd life but I live it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="libranaster, post: 149137, member: 5154"] Awwwwww poor little darling give her a hug from me and tell her its from someone who understands. The problem with this is it is a genuine fear. I personally have suffered from depression and anxiety all my life. Yes I was born with it and I know that sounds kinda wierd but going through what you are with your daughter I am sure you get the picture. I don't have bad Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)'s or anything but I know how she feels sometimes my mental illness causes me to get a little obsessive and then sometimes it causes me to tune out entirely depends on the day week or month really. I choose to use the obsessive behaviour to my advantage. Like instead of going on mind numbing medication that made me feel like a zombie I will say in my head things like if I have a depressive thought I repeat to myself how silly it is over and over until I feel better. Or in the morning I will look in the mirror and repeat to myself something good about myself. You could see if she is able to do that too but I don't have an actual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) so it is easier for me. Just don't expect too much from her, set her the goal of ending the day thinking of something nice and anything else she does is just icing on the cake. I went through this terrible thing when I was 12 in science we learned about germs and what skin looks like under a microscope I spent like 4 months obsessively washing and feeling sick all the time and like ripping my skin off and as I said I don't have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) I just suffer from anxiety so may I suggest warning her high school not to have her present that day because that was seriously traumatising. I was about 11 when one day I realised I had to die and there was no getting out of it. The terror I felt was indiscribable and it is sad she has to feel that everyday. I didn't feel like I would live to be this age (I am 25) so the fact I have is a miracle to me and suprising and sometimes I am not quite sure what to do with myself as I never thought I would get here. These may be feelings she will have when she gets older too. Try to be understanding and loving is all I can say mental illness can destroy lives and good people. All I can suggest is if she will co operate put all your other children to bed and sit with her and talk about something nice before bed it may help. Talk about something that made you laugh that day or something you thought she did well it might help her break the mind set. Also don't be afraid to discuss death with her. If you have made arrangments for if that happened to you let her know what they are because she just wants to be in control of the situation and the more in control she feels the better for her. I know its hard and morbid but if a child is frightened they need to know they will be ok if that happened. My mum did that with us when we got to about the same age and started asking questions and it did make me feel a little bit better to know I would be looked after. Fears about her personal safety and death are different but I have a few things I still insist on in this house because you never know one of us might not walk back in that door. One we have to say goodbye and I love you before we leave so that if something happens thats the last thing we said. I am no expert and these are just suggestions if they are bull just stay doing what you are doing I am sure you are dealing just fine and the only thing I can think of telling her in regards to her own personal safety is if death wants to get you he would have to come through me first and there is no chance of that happening. I am like her extreamly frightened of death of myself or people I love and it is always there in the back of my mind even as an adult it sometimes occurs to me that I have to die and I freak out but I still live my life. Given its a wierd life but I live it. [/QUOTE]
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