Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
ODD? Behavioral Specialist Therapy?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="orcaauntie" data-source="post: 457108" data-attributes="member: 12721"><p>She definitely shows signs of communication problems. When she doesn't like what my Mom says, she gets so angry, and just calls her terrible names. Niece says she holds it in for as long as she can but then my Mom "keeps bi****ng" so she blows up. So, uncontrollable mood swings- Basically, Yes.</p><p>I think there is a communcation issue between both of them. I am preparing to discuss this observation with my Mom today. After speaking with my Niece many times, I do think she gets hurt by some things that are said, and simply hurt by her past, and she doesn't know how to express it so she gets angry. Having your Mother essentially "abandon" you for the most part, is traumatic. Special care needs to be taken with these children and I worry that my Mom isn't communicating in the most effective ways, at all times- neither is my Niece. One thing that I KNOW hurts my Niece is being called her Mom (i.e. "OK (insert Mom's name here)" or, "You're acting like your Mom". Ok, I understand you feel that way, but NIECE doesn't need to know that. It only makes her angry, and probably act more like her Mom.. with the name calling. As I said in previous posts, the names she calls my Mom are EXACTLY what my Niece's mom calls her. It may benefit them to go to counseling together and open up about their feelings, and develop better communication.</p><p></p><p>Then Niece turns to Facebook to post her feelings about my Mom. As of right now her Wall is filled with horrible things and horrible names toward my Mom, with people commenting on the posts, encouraging her! Since my mom restricted her access, she cannot go on to delete them. The only way she has access to FB right now is on her cell phone through text messages. Her data plan is cancelled, which she doesn't realize yet. When I was talking to her last night she just kept saying that her phone wasn't working right and that it wasn't letting her on FB. I also asked her if she would delete the posts if she had access and she said she would.. not sure if she was just saying that to appease me. </p><p></p><p>As for depression, I am not sure... but is highly possible given the history. I will also discuss this possibility with my Mom. </p><p></p><p>P.S. I ordered her "The Explosive Child" last night for my Mom. I will also get a copy for myself to read. I just hope she reads it with an open mind and that it helps the possible counter-productive communication issues. She has read another book that she said did no good. Not sure of the title though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="orcaauntie, post: 457108, member: 12721"] She definitely shows signs of communication problems. When she doesn't like what my Mom says, she gets so angry, and just calls her terrible names. Niece says she holds it in for as long as she can but then my Mom "keeps bi****ng" so she blows up. So, uncontrollable mood swings- Basically, Yes. I think there is a communcation issue between both of them. I am preparing to discuss this observation with my Mom today. After speaking with my Niece many times, I do think she gets hurt by some things that are said, and simply hurt by her past, and she doesn't know how to express it so she gets angry. Having your Mother essentially "abandon" you for the most part, is traumatic. Special care needs to be taken with these children and I worry that my Mom isn't communicating in the most effective ways, at all times- neither is my Niece. One thing that I KNOW hurts my Niece is being called her Mom (i.e. "OK (insert Mom's name here)" or, "You're acting like your Mom". Ok, I understand you feel that way, but NIECE doesn't need to know that. It only makes her angry, and probably act more like her Mom.. with the name calling. As I said in previous posts, the names she calls my Mom are EXACTLY what my Niece's mom calls her. It may benefit them to go to counseling together and open up about their feelings, and develop better communication. Then Niece turns to Facebook to post her feelings about my Mom. As of right now her Wall is filled with horrible things and horrible names toward my Mom, with people commenting on the posts, encouraging her! Since my mom restricted her access, she cannot go on to delete them. The only way she has access to FB right now is on her cell phone through text messages. Her data plan is cancelled, which she doesn't realize yet. When I was talking to her last night she just kept saying that her phone wasn't working right and that it wasn't letting her on FB. I also asked her if she would delete the posts if she had access and she said she would.. not sure if she was just saying that to appease me. As for depression, I am not sure... but is highly possible given the history. I will also discuss this possibility with my Mom. P.S. I ordered her "The Explosive Child" last night for my Mom. I will also get a copy for myself to read. I just hope she reads it with an open mind and that it helps the possible counter-productive communication issues. She has read another book that she said did no good. Not sure of the title though. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
ODD? Behavioral Specialist Therapy?
Top