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ODD--Does it EVER get better??
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 163155" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Gosh, so sorry. But I'm glad you found us.</p><p>There are several parents here who know the ropes and will be able to help you get through the system.</p><p>All I can do is tell you what I have to tell myself every day--detach, detach, detach. Don't take it personally, despite the fact that you are the mom and she is your daughter. Try to think logically. Try not to engage her in arguments. Easier said than done, I know!</p><p>Think about it this way--say, for the sake of argument, that you are crazy. Why would she assault you? Does she say it's in self defense? I see crazy people on the street every day and I don't assault them. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Of course, living with-someone is much more stressful. So I can only assume there are control issues and that you two argue all the time. She has to learn to take responsibility for her actions. She's in juvie, not you.</p><p> </p><p>Still, she's obviously in emotional pain and that's where she needs help.</p><p>I do not envy you, having to jump through the hoops. We have private ins. and a private child psychiatric we've used for yrs. As you have discovered, consistency is very important. </p><p> </p><p>Best of luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 163155, member: 3419"] Gosh, so sorry. But I'm glad you found us. There are several parents here who know the ropes and will be able to help you get through the system. All I can do is tell you what I have to tell myself every day--detach, detach, detach. Don't take it personally, despite the fact that you are the mom and she is your daughter. Try to think logically. Try not to engage her in arguments. Easier said than done, I know! Think about it this way--say, for the sake of argument, that you are crazy. Why would she assault you? Does she say it's in self defense? I see crazy people on the street every day and I don't assault them. :) Of course, living with-someone is much more stressful. So I can only assume there are control issues and that you two argue all the time. She has to learn to take responsibility for her actions. She's in juvie, not you. Still, she's obviously in emotional pain and that's where she needs help. I do not envy you, having to jump through the hoops. We have private ins. and a private child psychiatric we've used for yrs. As you have discovered, consistency is very important. Best of luck. [/QUOTE]
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