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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 474269"><p>Not sure, but I suspect that adopted children in homes where there are only other bio kids sometimes feel uncomfortable (for lack of a better word) around their bio siblings. Throw in all the other concerns...the low IQ, ADHD and social anxiety and surely, its got to be very hard. Do you have a close relative that might be able to lend a helping hand? What about a big brother type program? These days many cities have adoption groups where parents of adopted kids meet up ... almost like a club of sorts. Something like that might be nice, so that our child can meet other adopted children.</p><p></p><p>Explore any interests your child likes...sports, karate , etc. and sign him up for any extracurricular activities in that area.</p><p></p><p>Its good that you are trying medications...never hesitate to seek a second opinion if you are not happy with your child's doctor. If your child worsened after getting on ADHD medication, you MUST tell the doctor this because it might mean something and he might not be able to stay on this medication.</p><p></p><p>If your child doesn't improve soon and if you can afford it, I would seriously consider getting him a therapist for talk therapy weekly. But be careful, don't make a big deal about it, don't talk about it openly with outsiders or in front of the other chidren...as it can have a bad stigma.</p><p></p><p>It will be important that you and your husband are a united front...meaning that you both together agree on appropriate discplinary actions. Do your best to help him at school, hiring tutors if you can afford it and paying extra attention to getting the right teachers and even schools.</p><p></p><p>Make sure that you and your spouse nurture your relationship together and allow when possible for a ltitle alone time together. Don't let this, or any of your other children put a wedge between you and don't let this child hurt any of the others.</p><p></p><p>As best as you can, love him unconditionally and let him feel that love.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 474269"] Not sure, but I suspect that adopted children in homes where there are only other bio kids sometimes feel uncomfortable (for lack of a better word) around their bio siblings. Throw in all the other concerns...the low IQ, ADHD and social anxiety and surely, its got to be very hard. Do you have a close relative that might be able to lend a helping hand? What about a big brother type program? These days many cities have adoption groups where parents of adopted kids meet up ... almost like a club of sorts. Something like that might be nice, so that our child can meet other adopted children. Explore any interests your child likes...sports, karate , etc. and sign him up for any extracurricular activities in that area. Its good that you are trying medications...never hesitate to seek a second opinion if you are not happy with your child's doctor. If your child worsened after getting on ADHD medication, you MUST tell the doctor this because it might mean something and he might not be able to stay on this medication. If your child doesn't improve soon and if you can afford it, I would seriously consider getting him a therapist for talk therapy weekly. But be careful, don't make a big deal about it, don't talk about it openly with outsiders or in front of the other chidren...as it can have a bad stigma. It will be important that you and your husband are a united front...meaning that you both together agree on appropriate discplinary actions. Do your best to help him at school, hiring tutors if you can afford it and paying extra attention to getting the right teachers and even schools. Make sure that you and your spouse nurture your relationship together and allow when possible for a ltitle alone time together. Don't let this, or any of your other children put a wedge between you and don't let this child hurt any of the others. As best as you can, love him unconditionally and let him feel that love. [/QUOTE]
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