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<blockquote data-quote="ShakinThingzUp" data-source="post: 100930" data-attributes="member: 4250"><p>My daughter began raging in the store when she wasn't getting her way also (not always about buying something either, it could have been because her brother was standing too close to her or because I wouldn't let her go down a different isle than me)....</p><p></p><p>My policy became this for shopping with my daughter:</p><p>1 - Before leaving the house, we discussed the rules... she had to agree to follow them. (Yes Ma'am)</p><p>2 - In the car before entering EVERY store, we discussed the rules and what would happen if not obeyed... she had to agree to follow them.</p><p>3 - If a rule was broken, there was one warning, and a request to remain calm was given.</p><p>4 - If she threw a fit ONCE or broke the rule the second time, we left the store immediately and returned to the car, and then returned home.</p><p></p><p>This was ridiculous the first several shopping trips. But, when my daughter learned that the rules were not changing, and I was NOT bluffing... she learned that she would never ever do ANY shopping if she did not follow my rules. They were STRICT, and the consequences were set, and followed strictly.</p><p></p><p>My daughter had to walk beside me with her hand on my cart, using all her manners.</p><p></p><p>Until she learned to do that, I shopped without her. I tested it occasionally to see if she would behave. When she did not, we left, immediately.</p><p></p><p>Eventually, she behaved quite well.</p><p>Once she got that down (many shopping trips with hand on cart, behaving) - I allowed her to not have her hand on the cart - still beside me....</p><p>When she got that down....... she could go one isle away, etc.</p><p></p><p>The trick is developing a plan that is structured and sticking to it....... </p><p></p><p>My daughter has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) (for similar problems, ODD, etc. this ought to work).... but, its difficult.... I felt like pulling my hair out so many times... and had to have sitters handy just to go to the store...</p><p></p><p>God Bless!</p><p>Amy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ShakinThingzUp, post: 100930, member: 4250"] My daughter began raging in the store when she wasn't getting her way also (not always about buying something either, it could have been because her brother was standing too close to her or because I wouldn't let her go down a different isle than me).... My policy became this for shopping with my daughter: 1 - Before leaving the house, we discussed the rules... she had to agree to follow them. (Yes Ma'am) 2 - In the car before entering EVERY store, we discussed the rules and what would happen if not obeyed... she had to agree to follow them. 3 - If a rule was broken, there was one warning, and a request to remain calm was given. 4 - If she threw a fit ONCE or broke the rule the second time, we left the store immediately and returned to the car, and then returned home. This was ridiculous the first several shopping trips. But, when my daughter learned that the rules were not changing, and I was NOT bluffing... she learned that she would never ever do ANY shopping if she did not follow my rules. They were STRICT, and the consequences were set, and followed strictly. My daughter had to walk beside me with her hand on my cart, using all her manners. Until she learned to do that, I shopped without her. I tested it occasionally to see if she would behave. When she did not, we left, immediately. Eventually, she behaved quite well. Once she got that down (many shopping trips with hand on cart, behaving) - I allowed her to not have her hand on the cart - still beside me.... When she got that down....... she could go one isle away, etc. The trick is developing a plan that is structured and sticking to it....... My daughter has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) (for similar problems, ODD, etc. this ought to work).... but, its difficult.... I felt like pulling my hair out so many times... and had to have sitters handy just to go to the store... God Bless! Amy [/QUOTE]
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