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<blockquote data-quote="BestICan" data-source="post: 137966" data-attributes="member: 3413"><p>Sorry, this must be very hurtful for you! </p><p></p><p>Since she's 7, I think I might be tempted to sidestep the whole explanation about money and just state a more general rule. If she says someone else is nicer than you, you could respond (as bored as you can sound): "Tink, if you don't have something nice to say, please don't say anything at all." If she complains that you never buy her anything, you could say, "In this house, we buy what we can afford." This helps move the conversation out of personal terms, and into general ones. It gives you a response that's a little less vulnerable to additional arguments from difficult child. </p><p></p><p>If she's anything like my difficult child, she'll want to press the point just to get a reaction from you. My response would be (OK, this is the response my therapist recommends): "You like to argue about things like this." (In a bored voice). If she presses again, you would say, "Yes, you like to argue about things like this." And again and again. This works for me when difficult child is trying to push my buttons. He usually gets frustrated and then drops it. </p><p></p><p>Whether she's talking like this to bother you or just because she's stating her 7-year-old tactless opinion, I think it's best to give a minimal response.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BestICan, post: 137966, member: 3413"] Sorry, this must be very hurtful for you! Since she's 7, I think I might be tempted to sidestep the whole explanation about money and just state a more general rule. If she says someone else is nicer than you, you could respond (as bored as you can sound): "Tink, if you don't have something nice to say, please don't say anything at all." If she complains that you never buy her anything, you could say, "In this house, we buy what we can afford." This helps move the conversation out of personal terms, and into general ones. It gives you a response that's a little less vulnerable to additional arguments from difficult child. If she's anything like my difficult child, she'll want to press the point just to get a reaction from you. My response would be (OK, this is the response my therapist recommends): "You like to argue about things like this." (In a bored voice). If she presses again, you would say, "Yes, you like to argue about things like this." And again and again. This works for me when difficult child is trying to push my buttons. He usually gets frustrated and then drops it. Whether she's talking like this to bother you or just because she's stating her 7-year-old tactless opinion, I think it's best to give a minimal response. [/QUOTE]
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