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Ok, I will NEVER camp out with fifteen girls AGAIN!!!! EVER!
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 282235" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>WHat a wonderful excuse ... "I have anger issues..."</p><p></p><p>THAT wasn't something she thought up by herself on the spur of the moment!</p><p></p><p>When difficult child 3 got physicallyattacked by a younger kid who lives near us, we went to complain to the parents. The father came out to us and explained (in front of his son) that difficult child 3 must have done osmething, perhaps touched his son, that his son has sensory problems and to him a touch can feel like a physical blow and he will retaliate, so whoever touches him has to simply take what happens. Meanwhile the son is lapping this up, storing it away like squirrels store nuts for winter.</p><p>And it hadn't happened thta way anyway - the kid had ridden up to difficult child 3, who was (like a lot of autistic kids) in his own world playing with a paper aeroplane, at that moment sitting in the gutter fiddling with the folds. The kid had got off his bike and thumped difficult child 3, kicking him, then got on his bike and rode off.</p><p></p><p>The father went on to say that his son often got picked on because of his 'problem'. At this point in the conversagtion with the boys' father, the boy piped up with, "Yeah, after I left difficult child 3, I rode round the corner and another kid attacked me, right out of the blue. But I left HIM with a bloody nose."</p><p>The father turned and said to his son, "Good on you, I'm glad you can look after yourself."</p><p></p><p>We left. I think I did manage to say, "Amazing how your son gets picked on - that's two unprovoked attacks within minutes, totally unrelated and unknown to each other. My, your son is such a target!"</p><p></p><p>I had also said, "difficult child 3, due to his autism, also has sensory issues. He is learning to understand them and manage them appropriately."</p><p></p><p>Since then I've been making a point of being nice to this boy, to get under his skin. It's not been easy. I strongly suspect it's been a case of "small man syndrome" in the father, who is physically abusive to a number of men in town (despite his small stature) and could well be abusive to his family. Their behaviour seems to bear this out.</p><p></p><p>Very sad, but especially sad when it enables the children to use every escuse under the sun for teir behaviour without the accountability.</p><p></p><p>YOU made that girl accountable. Good for you. It may have been the first time she has been made to atone.</p><p></p><p>A suggestion for next year - let N have a party, but make her reduce the number of kids invited. Maybe half the number. If the number is too small, tell her she can have two parties, half her friends at each. Or three parties, five girls at each. A large party is too unmanageable, especially as a sleepover. Especially if it's a crowded camping ground and you can't control what other people do.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 282235, member: 1991"] WHat a wonderful excuse ... "I have anger issues..." THAT wasn't something she thought up by herself on the spur of the moment! When difficult child 3 got physicallyattacked by a younger kid who lives near us, we went to complain to the parents. The father came out to us and explained (in front of his son) that difficult child 3 must have done osmething, perhaps touched his son, that his son has sensory problems and to him a touch can feel like a physical blow and he will retaliate, so whoever touches him has to simply take what happens. Meanwhile the son is lapping this up, storing it away like squirrels store nuts for winter. And it hadn't happened thta way anyway - the kid had ridden up to difficult child 3, who was (like a lot of autistic kids) in his own world playing with a paper aeroplane, at that moment sitting in the gutter fiddling with the folds. The kid had got off his bike and thumped difficult child 3, kicking him, then got on his bike and rode off. The father went on to say that his son often got picked on because of his 'problem'. At this point in the conversagtion with the boys' father, the boy piped up with, "Yeah, after I left difficult child 3, I rode round the corner and another kid attacked me, right out of the blue. But I left HIM with a bloody nose." The father turned and said to his son, "Good on you, I'm glad you can look after yourself." We left. I think I did manage to say, "Amazing how your son gets picked on - that's two unprovoked attacks within minutes, totally unrelated and unknown to each other. My, your son is such a target!" I had also said, "difficult child 3, due to his autism, also has sensory issues. He is learning to understand them and manage them appropriately." Since then I've been making a point of being nice to this boy, to get under his skin. It's not been easy. I strongly suspect it's been a case of "small man syndrome" in the father, who is physically abusive to a number of men in town (despite his small stature) and could well be abusive to his family. Their behaviour seems to bear this out. Very sad, but especially sad when it enables the children to use every escuse under the sun for teir behaviour without the accountability. YOU made that girl accountable. Good for you. It may have been the first time she has been made to atone. A suggestion for next year - let N have a party, but make her reduce the number of kids invited. Maybe half the number. If the number is too small, tell her she can have two parties, half her friends at each. Or three parties, five girls at each. A large party is too unmanageable, especially as a sleepover. Especially if it's a crowded camping ground and you can't control what other people do. Marg [/QUOTE]
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