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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 308462" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>A couple observations on your post.</p><p> </p><p>First, the sd does not bear responsibility for what difficult child does at home. I don't feel you can expect them to do a risk assessment, come to the conclusion that he is a threat to others in school, and have that automatically mean removal from the home. They are assessing his threat to himself and others in the school enviornment not at home with you. Your comment that if he becomes threatening at school he could be a huge threat to you at home will fall on deaf ears, in my opinion, with the folks you are dealing with at the sd - they are not going to care. They are going to care that they protect themsevles from law suits should your son become violent at school by showing they have crossed their "t"s and dotted their "i"s with the threat assessment and ultimate outcome of the assessment.</p><p> </p><p>As far as difficult child becoming threatening to you and the school placing him in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) rather than an alternative school, I think that's going to be a real issue. Their wording sounds like they can choose an alternative school (basicaly to get him out of whatever school setting he ends up in after release from Department of Juvenile Justice). If the sd has a "behavior issues alternative school", I would imagine that would be the initial placement. The sd would always take the lower cost - alternative school trumps Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement in terms of money. Unless difficult child's therapist can make a really good argument as to why a future incident of violence equals only Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and not the alternative school option at the IEE meeting, I'm not sure you will get that. I'm not saying it's not needed, I just am not sure they will go for it. Try...</p><p> </p><p>Since the current school personnel seem to have a positive and objective view of difficult child's potential (and nonpotential for violence) how can they play a part in this? Can they have input into his placement?</p><p> </p><p>Since that report is now final and in difficult child's permanent school record, it appears your only alternative is going to be for therapist to make recommendations upon the basis that he has been dealing with son, knows your son, knows what has and hasn't worked, and they respect him as an individual and independent professional. The rest of it is mute, as frustrating as it is for you as his mother.</p><p> </p><p>This is a complicated situation because the sd is looking at your son based on his history, i.e., threatening to hurt another student with a knife, threatening his mother with a knife, and his placement in Department of Juvenile Justice. They are looking at the incidents and current placement from the standpoint of what is looks like on a piece of paper, not looking at a troubled teen in need of assistance. I don't personally feel they are assessing his need for a quality education in order to give a chance to succeed. They are looking to cover their you-know-whats.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 308462, member: 805"] A couple observations on your post. First, the sd does not bear responsibility for what difficult child does at home. I don't feel you can expect them to do a risk assessment, come to the conclusion that he is a threat to others in school, and have that automatically mean removal from the home. They are assessing his threat to himself and others in the school enviornment not at home with you. Your comment that if he becomes threatening at school he could be a huge threat to you at home will fall on deaf ears, in my opinion, with the folks you are dealing with at the sd - they are not going to care. They are going to care that they protect themsevles from law suits should your son become violent at school by showing they have crossed their "t"s and dotted their "i"s with the threat assessment and ultimate outcome of the assessment. As far as difficult child becoming threatening to you and the school placing him in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) rather than an alternative school, I think that's going to be a real issue. Their wording sounds like they can choose an alternative school (basicaly to get him out of whatever school setting he ends up in after release from Department of Juvenile Justice). If the sd has a "behavior issues alternative school", I would imagine that would be the initial placement. The sd would always take the lower cost - alternative school trumps Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement in terms of money. Unless difficult child's therapist can make a really good argument as to why a future incident of violence equals only Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and not the alternative school option at the IEE meeting, I'm not sure you will get that. I'm not saying it's not needed, I just am not sure they will go for it. Try... Since the current school personnel seem to have a positive and objective view of difficult child's potential (and nonpotential for violence) how can they play a part in this? Can they have input into his placement? Since that report is now final and in difficult child's permanent school record, it appears your only alternative is going to be for therapist to make recommendations upon the basis that he has been dealing with son, knows your son, knows what has and hasn't worked, and they respect him as an individual and independent professional. The rest of it is mute, as frustrating as it is for you as his mother. This is a complicated situation because the sd is looking at your son based on his history, i.e., threatening to hurt another student with a knife, threatening his mother with a knife, and his placement in Department of Juvenile Justice. They are looking at the incidents and current placement from the standpoint of what is looks like on a piece of paper, not looking at a troubled teen in need of assistance. I don't personally feel they are assessing his need for a quality education in order to give a chance to succeed. They are looking to cover their you-know-whats. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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