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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 169187" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><strong>Our hard & fast rule is 16 for movie dates & such. We're going to make kt very uncomfortable because we are telling her already that we expect to meet her date & her date's parents. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>husband & I are undecided about group dates. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>kt has a "boyfriend" - a new one everyday. At this point we are talking respect for all concerned in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. That's a tough concept for kt right now. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>We talk respect of personal space, emotional & verbal. Name calling (verbal abuse), blackmail (emotional) & of course keeping each other's body's their own. If something doesn't feel or seem right you put a stop to it.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>In the same right, we talk respect of the parents (families) of those involved. If kt is willing to lie or get into trouble over a boy, that boy isn't worth dating. Period. The same goes for the boyfriend.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>We also discuss sex, oral sex & what that means. I let kt know that she shouldn't have sex if she isn't willing to face the consequences (i.e. STDs, pregnancy, etc). As kt has always wanted a baby we downplay the pregnancy thing. Instead we let her know our stance on sex & where it belongs in a relationship. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>I also let kt know that she wants a boyfriend who has the same values as our family. Values that she can live with. Honesty, respect, loyalty to name a few. More importantly a boyfriend who will stick with you through thick & thin, if she thinks that boyfriend is "it". Right now every boyfriend is the "one" she will marry. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>kt knows & will tell you her life plan...... high school, vocational school/college, job, cool car (kt wants a yellow Vette), travel & play, date, find your true love, marry (age 28 or older), sex & then a baby. We have told her this since the age of 10. And she will tell you that 25 is a good age to marry & have a baby at 27 (I'll accept that).</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>We have a morning ritual before kt heads out to school - a morning mom/daughter conversation. Any topic is open for conversation & we talk quietly. I've spent years talking to her of these things.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Once kt grasps these ideas/concepts we will be a great deal more comfortable letting her date - I think 16 is a good target for her.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>by the way, I let kt know regularly to cherish the girlfriends she makes right now - they will stick with her no matter what. Just recently a friend from high school connected with me after almost 30 years - we picked up right where we left off. Women friends are the most loyal & patient; should be cherished. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Sorry for the rambling - this has been a long time conversation with kt.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 169187, member: 393"] [B]Our hard & fast rule is 16 for movie dates & such. We're going to make kt very uncomfortable because we are telling her already that we expect to meet her date & her date's parents. husband & I are undecided about group dates. kt has a "boyfriend" - a new one everyday. At this point we are talking respect for all concerned in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. That's a tough concept for kt right now. We talk respect of personal space, emotional & verbal. Name calling (verbal abuse), blackmail (emotional) & of course keeping each other's body's their own. If something doesn't feel or seem right you put a stop to it. In the same right, we talk respect of the parents (families) of those involved. If kt is willing to lie or get into trouble over a boy, that boy isn't worth dating. Period. The same goes for the boyfriend. We also discuss sex, oral sex & what that means. I let kt know that she shouldn't have sex if she isn't willing to face the consequences (i.e. STDs, pregnancy, etc). As kt has always wanted a baby we downplay the pregnancy thing. Instead we let her know our stance on sex & where it belongs in a relationship. I also let kt know that she wants a boyfriend who has the same values as our family. Values that she can live with. Honesty, respect, loyalty to name a few. More importantly a boyfriend who will stick with you through thick & thin, if she thinks that boyfriend is "it". Right now every boyfriend is the "one" she will marry. kt knows & will tell you her life plan...... high school, vocational school/college, job, cool car (kt wants a yellow Vette), travel & play, date, find your true love, marry (age 28 or older), sex & then a baby. We have told her this since the age of 10. And she will tell you that 25 is a good age to marry & have a baby at 27 (I'll accept that). We have a morning ritual before kt heads out to school - a morning mom/daughter conversation. Any topic is open for conversation & we talk quietly. I've spent years talking to her of these things. Once kt grasps these ideas/concepts we will be a great deal more comfortable letting her date - I think 16 is a good target for her. by the way, I let kt know regularly to cherish the girlfriends she makes right now - they will stick with her no matter what. Just recently a friend from high school connected with me after almost 30 years - we picked up right where we left off. Women friends are the most loyal & patient; should be cherished. Sorry for the rambling - this has been a long time conversation with kt. [/B] [/QUOTE]
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