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Ok, Moms. Dating for girls at what age?
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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 169194" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>I did not have any pre planned age set for either of my daughters. difficult child was very into makeup and clothes and boys. She was in class with only boys after mid grade 7, not by MY choice at all. The girls she did know we hard and "fast" She did not like the boys she was in class with. Kids who were not in her class at school usually were not allowed around her becuz she was in ED BD class, altho she was not violent at all. Turns out she did have a boyfriend that she managed to sneak with, and he was considerably older than her. He did not drive, she does not drive, He lives with his mother, in another town. </p><p></p><p>easy child had no interest in make up clothes or boys AT ALL. It was a huge surprise even to her when she was just short of 16 that she did find one boy she was taken with. Prior to that she did large group things with a very large group she had been part of since preschool. It did include boys and girls, and none of the kids paired off at all. She eventually became a couple with this boy, and has been ever since, but they do still go out with the large group very often, and she even goes to lunch or movies with some of the boys from the large group- and sometimes with some of the girls. </p><p>My youngest brother who is around age of my daughters never "dated" My mother only had him around other males. He is now almost 23 and mom has now been gone 3 years and as far as any of us know, he still does not date girls at all. </p><p>My son, now 13, has had a female best friend, same one now, for over 5 years. My son is my youngest child, his best friend is the youngest of her siblings. Mostly they "hang out" in large groups, playing basketball and or videogames. She has a name that is shortened and my son calls her by the male version ofher name, at her request, and when he talks about her, if you did not know, you would think he was talking about a male friend. If you see her from afar, you would not realize she is a she. </p><p></p><p>I am not sure I would put any specific age on dateing ahead of time. To me, there seems to be so many variables. My difficult child was actually far more stable in her time leading up to her mid teens than she was by 15 and 16. 16 was her absolute most horrible time. easy child seemed quite responsible and mature until approx age 17.5 These days it sometimes seems like difficult child might lean more towards female pairing than male. And my youngest brother, most now assume he prefers same sex entirely. </p><p></p><p>For any kid who really desires to be with another person, a very strict and rigid set of rules does not always work to keep them apart, and can cause them to behave even more extreme than they might otherwise. For some kids, even if rules are very lax, they still somehow manage to do OK. It just so much depends on the child and on their level of maturity and level of stability AT THAT MOMENT. Even if a child is not a difficult child, they can still have some level of instability- they can still have serious lapses in judement, and they can still get themself in a difficult situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 169194, member: 1697"] I did not have any pre planned age set for either of my daughters. difficult child was very into makeup and clothes and boys. She was in class with only boys after mid grade 7, not by MY choice at all. The girls she did know we hard and "fast" She did not like the boys she was in class with. Kids who were not in her class at school usually were not allowed around her becuz she was in ED BD class, altho she was not violent at all. Turns out she did have a boyfriend that she managed to sneak with, and he was considerably older than her. He did not drive, she does not drive, He lives with his mother, in another town. easy child had no interest in make up clothes or boys AT ALL. It was a huge surprise even to her when she was just short of 16 that she did find one boy she was taken with. Prior to that she did large group things with a very large group she had been part of since preschool. It did include boys and girls, and none of the kids paired off at all. She eventually became a couple with this boy, and has been ever since, but they do still go out with the large group very often, and she even goes to lunch or movies with some of the boys from the large group- and sometimes with some of the girls. My youngest brother who is around age of my daughters never "dated" My mother only had him around other males. He is now almost 23 and mom has now been gone 3 years and as far as any of us know, he still does not date girls at all. My son, now 13, has had a female best friend, same one now, for over 5 years. My son is my youngest child, his best friend is the youngest of her siblings. Mostly they "hang out" in large groups, playing basketball and or videogames. She has a name that is shortened and my son calls her by the male version ofher name, at her request, and when he talks about her, if you did not know, you would think he was talking about a male friend. If you see her from afar, you would not realize she is a she. I am not sure I would put any specific age on dateing ahead of time. To me, there seems to be so many variables. My difficult child was actually far more stable in her time leading up to her mid teens than she was by 15 and 16. 16 was her absolute most horrible time. easy child seemed quite responsible and mature until approx age 17.5 These days it sometimes seems like difficult child might lean more towards female pairing than male. And my youngest brother, most now assume he prefers same sex entirely. For any kid who really desires to be with another person, a very strict and rigid set of rules does not always work to keep them apart, and can cause them to behave even more extreme than they might otherwise. For some kids, even if rules are very lax, they still somehow manage to do OK. It just so much depends on the child and on their level of maturity and level of stability AT THAT MOMENT. Even if a child is not a difficult child, they can still have some level of instability- they can still have serious lapses in judement, and they can still get themself in a difficult situation. [/QUOTE]
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