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Ok, Moms. Dating for girls at what age?
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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 169653" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I think you will get many different opinions because all our girls are different. Some can handle responsibility younger, and are very trustworthy.</p><p> </p><p>However, my take on this is why put my daugher into a position where she may have to make a choice she is not mature enough to handle. Our rule - No alone dating until 16. She could attend a school dance with a group, go to dinner in a group, go to the movies in a group, go to the mall........ But no driving alone with a boy until she was 16 and I approved him!!! Since she knew this from middle school, it was never an issue.</p><p> </p><p>It's not just about the maturity level of your daughter either. It's about the maturity level of the boy she is with as well. </p><p> </p><p>My strong opnion on this issue is that when kids (and at 12, 13, and 14 you really are still a kid) are allowed to date (and I use that word loosely because even saying you have a girlfriend or boyfriend at 12 is kinda ridiculous in my opinion) early, they begin the mating dance. Once you begin, it's much easier to move on to the next phase. I have seen this with my daughter's friends/associates who were allowed to date and have boyfriends as young as middle school. Not one of them remained a virgin for long, and many, once that virginity was taken, placed less value on committment sexual relationships. Casual sex was easier. This is not the case with everyone, but why take the chance that my daughter's self worth is wrapped up in some guy's value of her body or her willingness to "perform"?</p><p> </p><p>Like Linda, I believe an open and honest relationship with our girls, where they feel comfortable discussing sex and all its ramifications, is really important.</p><p> </p><p>It is equally important with our boys. I am a big "respect" preacher with my son. </p><p> </p><p>That's my take on it.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 169653, member: 805"] I think you will get many different opinions because all our girls are different. Some can handle responsibility younger, and are very trustworthy. However, my take on this is why put my daugher into a position where she may have to make a choice she is not mature enough to handle. Our rule - No alone dating until 16. She could attend a school dance with a group, go to dinner in a group, go to the movies in a group, go to the mall........ But no driving alone with a boy until she was 16 and I approved him!!! Since she knew this from middle school, it was never an issue. It's not just about the maturity level of your daughter either. It's about the maturity level of the boy she is with as well. My strong opnion on this issue is that when kids (and at 12, 13, and 14 you really are still a kid) are allowed to date (and I use that word loosely because even saying you have a girlfriend or boyfriend at 12 is kinda ridiculous in my opinion) early, they begin the mating dance. Once you begin, it's much easier to move on to the next phase. I have seen this with my daughter's friends/associates who were allowed to date and have boyfriends as young as middle school. Not one of them remained a virgin for long, and many, once that virginity was taken, placed less value on committment sexual relationships. Casual sex was easier. This is not the case with everyone, but why take the chance that my daughter's self worth is wrapped up in some guy's value of her body or her willingness to "perform"? Like Linda, I believe an open and honest relationship with our girls, where they feel comfortable discussing sex and all its ramifications, is really important. It is equally important with our boys. I am a big "respect" preacher with my son. That's my take on it. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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