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Ok, wise friends. If I know somebody's teen is suicidal, what do I do?
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 469775" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Depression is such a mean illness. I am sorry for him and sorry for you. Boys especially can be so impulsive if they do decide to do something. I think if you have never talked about yourself before and he is that smart, he would probabaly figure out that you were hinting at something to him if you suddenly are talking about yourself and your depression. Maybe, maybe not. But you already did open the door when you asked how he was. If you say something like you have noticed he doesn't seem his usual self, and then just open the door by letting him know you have grown to really love him as one of your own and just know he can come to you with anything, anytime... maybe he will at least have one more safety net under him. One more little thought to stop him if he gets to the point of thinking no one cares. Ultimately, it will be his decision so prepare yourself that you can not control what happens. You can only be supportive since you are not his parent. I lost a child I cared for from his early childhood. He had adhd but didn't take the medications off school times. Athletic, smart, from an amazing family who DID get him help. Once in college didn't think he needed ADHD medications. He became friends with my sister (worked together) and they both have adhd so he confessed to her that he was self medicating with drugs and he felt so guilty. A few months later he did call 911 to come and get him because he didn't want his parents to find hiim. Now we miss him dearly but even though we all knew there was something going on, we couldnt actually stop him. I was depressed as a young adult and I know the medications and my hard work were the only things that stopped me from wanting to die. No one could have really stopped me because I somehow told myself that they didn't understand how much better THEY would be without me. It seems like a differen person to me now, I could never imagine thinking that now and for the past 25 years. But it made sense to me then. If he directly does threat, well then it is a different story of course. You can then call 911 and they can get him and try to hold him. If people are really serious though, they will lie and say they are not a threat and just be let out. </p><p>You are doing all the right things in my humble opinion, and if you are wondering if there are other things you can do maybe call a suicide line or something and see what recommendations they have. Maybe they have a number you can get for your daughter to give to him, like was said before if she can get him to promise her if he ever gets to that point he must call her and maybe add a crisis line.</p><p></p><p>Just thoughts, I am so sorry for your worry, you are very kind. I hope he can get past this. Suicide really is a permanent answer to a temporary problem. It just doesn't feel that way when you are depressed sometimes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 469775, member: 12886"] Depression is such a mean illness. I am sorry for him and sorry for you. Boys especially can be so impulsive if they do decide to do something. I think if you have never talked about yourself before and he is that smart, he would probabaly figure out that you were hinting at something to him if you suddenly are talking about yourself and your depression. Maybe, maybe not. But you already did open the door when you asked how he was. If you say something like you have noticed he doesn't seem his usual self, and then just open the door by letting him know you have grown to really love him as one of your own and just know he can come to you with anything, anytime... maybe he will at least have one more safety net under him. One more little thought to stop him if he gets to the point of thinking no one cares. Ultimately, it will be his decision so prepare yourself that you can not control what happens. You can only be supportive since you are not his parent. I lost a child I cared for from his early childhood. He had adhd but didn't take the medications off school times. Athletic, smart, from an amazing family who DID get him help. Once in college didn't think he needed ADHD medications. He became friends with my sister (worked together) and they both have adhd so he confessed to her that he was self medicating with drugs and he felt so guilty. A few months later he did call 911 to come and get him because he didn't want his parents to find hiim. Now we miss him dearly but even though we all knew there was something going on, we couldnt actually stop him. I was depressed as a young adult and I know the medications and my hard work were the only things that stopped me from wanting to die. No one could have really stopped me because I somehow told myself that they didn't understand how much better THEY would be without me. It seems like a differen person to me now, I could never imagine thinking that now and for the past 25 years. But it made sense to me then. If he directly does threat, well then it is a different story of course. You can then call 911 and they can get him and try to hold him. If people are really serious though, they will lie and say they are not a threat and just be let out. You are doing all the right things in my humble opinion, and if you are wondering if there are other things you can do maybe call a suicide line or something and see what recommendations they have. Maybe they have a number you can get for your daughter to give to him, like was said before if she can get him to promise her if he ever gets to that point he must call her and maybe add a crisis line. Just thoughts, I am so sorry for your worry, you are very kind. I hope he can get past this. Suicide really is a permanent answer to a temporary problem. It just doesn't feel that way when you are depressed sometimes. [/QUOTE]
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