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Ok, wise friends. If I know somebody's teen is suicidal, what do I do?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 469793" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'll consider calling school if Jumper tells me he's thinking of suicide. They would be SHOCKED and may not believe me because he is seen as "perfect child." He tells NOBODY his problems...he has been brought up that you keep family business and personal problems to yourself. He has never told anyone about himself the way he has confided in Jumper. But if it was life or death, I'd tell them and his parents too. They DID get help for him when he was eight, but I'm not sure what the help involved. It could have been just at his church. Obviously, he made them think he was ok because they have no idea that he is still in that dark place. And, according to him, he has never climbed out of it...he has always been depressed.</p><p></p><p>I *do* love him like another son. He is here so much and I appreciate his goodness and kindness toward Jumper. Jumper was sexually abused and right now wants nothing to do with sex (which I'm glad about because of her young age). The only reason she agreed to date him was because he promised never to push her sexually and he actually is a virgin too, and she tells me how respectful he is. She is lucky she found him too.</p><p></p><p>As for mental health issues, he's going to be eighteen in two months. He CAN go for help without telling his parents. And we have a county mental health center here...I could just use my address to get him in. It wouldn't cost him much, if anything. I've had pretty good luck there. I'd like to see him in treatment before he goes to college because I'm afraid of what will happen when this small town boy is suddenly in one of those huge state universities, which is where he wants to go (and he should get in). I wonder if he'll ever start to self-medicate. Right now he doesn't even drink, but there is a lot of that in college. </p><p></p><p>Depression is such a mean disease. You can't control when it hits you. You can't make it go away by yourself. You can only see the bad when you have it, and it robs you of all hope. I remember those horrible days of deep depression. Ugh. Never again.</p><p></p><p>Buddy, I'm so sorry about your friend. Words can't express how sorry I am.</p><p></p><p>Keista, they are mostly alone. Both of them, however, go to different schools and when they are not together, they are both in sports, and J. is an exceptional athlete. All the kids look up to him and he is captain of the football team. The problem is, his parents don't let him hang with them very often and he lives in the middle of nowhere. When I say the middle of nowhere, I mean the only homes anywhere near him belong to other family members who he does not confide in and doesn't seem to trust or be emotionally close to.</p><p></p><p>You know what his parents would say if I told them? "This is all Jumper's fault!" Honest to God, they would. Even though J. told her that he may not even be here if it wasn't for her. How sad is it that he can't ask them for help?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 469793, member: 1550"] I'll consider calling school if Jumper tells me he's thinking of suicide. They would be SHOCKED and may not believe me because he is seen as "perfect child." He tells NOBODY his problems...he has been brought up that you keep family business and personal problems to yourself. He has never told anyone about himself the way he has confided in Jumper. But if it was life or death, I'd tell them and his parents too. They DID get help for him when he was eight, but I'm not sure what the help involved. It could have been just at his church. Obviously, he made them think he was ok because they have no idea that he is still in that dark place. And, according to him, he has never climbed out of it...he has always been depressed. I *do* love him like another son. He is here so much and I appreciate his goodness and kindness toward Jumper. Jumper was sexually abused and right now wants nothing to do with sex (which I'm glad about because of her young age). The only reason she agreed to date him was because he promised never to push her sexually and he actually is a virgin too, and she tells me how respectful he is. She is lucky she found him too. As for mental health issues, he's going to be eighteen in two months. He CAN go for help without telling his parents. And we have a county mental health center here...I could just use my address to get him in. It wouldn't cost him much, if anything. I've had pretty good luck there. I'd like to see him in treatment before he goes to college because I'm afraid of what will happen when this small town boy is suddenly in one of those huge state universities, which is where he wants to go (and he should get in). I wonder if he'll ever start to self-medicate. Right now he doesn't even drink, but there is a lot of that in college. Depression is such a mean disease. You can't control when it hits you. You can't make it go away by yourself. You can only see the bad when you have it, and it robs you of all hope. I remember those horrible days of deep depression. Ugh. Never again. Buddy, I'm so sorry about your friend. Words can't express how sorry I am. Keista, they are mostly alone. Both of them, however, go to different schools and when they are not together, they are both in sports, and J. is an exceptional athlete. All the kids look up to him and he is captain of the football team. The problem is, his parents don't let him hang with them very often and he lives in the middle of nowhere. When I say the middle of nowhere, I mean the only homes anywhere near him belong to other family members who he does not confide in and doesn't seem to trust or be emotionally close to. You know what his parents would say if I told them? "This is all Jumper's fault!" Honest to God, they would. Even though J. told her that he may not even be here if it wasn't for her. How sad is it that he can't ask them for help? [/QUOTE]
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