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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 74063" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>Well, you guys certainly made me feel better about being a bit harsh about this. Also, something her therapist mentioned was writing assignments. I was thinking that if she were to be grounded, since she will have lots of free time on her hands, maybe she should write about all the things that could have happened and how she would have felt if something HAD happened, and how she thinks we would have felt if something had happened. Her therapist told us that for things she gets in trouble for, the ultimate goal of punishment has to be for her to think of what she did wrong and realize the seriousness of her offense, and she has found that often if parents make their children write it down, it can have several purposes. Number one, you then KNOW that the child really DID think about what they did, and number two, it helps the parents understand their take on things so that you know how to proceed in the future. </p><p></p><p>And see, this is something else that makes it worse, at least at our house. It has only been two short weeks since something horrible happened to a small child that we all know because someone turned their back on him for only one second. So we are still all dealing with that one, and it has made me a little more paranoid about my little ones (even the 13 year old!)</p><p></p><p>I don't know, have any of you ever tried to make your kids write about the situation when they get into trouble??? If so, have you found it to be helpful?</p><p></p><p>And don't worry, I learned my lesson, they will NOT be going anywhere or doing anything unsupervised with her for a LOOONNGGG time, if ever.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 74063, member: 3527"] Well, you guys certainly made me feel better about being a bit harsh about this. Also, something her therapist mentioned was writing assignments. I was thinking that if she were to be grounded, since she will have lots of free time on her hands, maybe she should write about all the things that could have happened and how she would have felt if something HAD happened, and how she thinks we would have felt if something had happened. Her therapist told us that for things she gets in trouble for, the ultimate goal of punishment has to be for her to think of what she did wrong and realize the seriousness of her offense, and she has found that often if parents make their children write it down, it can have several purposes. Number one, you then KNOW that the child really DID think about what they did, and number two, it helps the parents understand their take on things so that you know how to proceed in the future. And see, this is something else that makes it worse, at least at our house. It has only been two short weeks since something horrible happened to a small child that we all know because someone turned their back on him for only one second. So we are still all dealing with that one, and it has made me a little more paranoid about my little ones (even the 13 year old!) I don't know, have any of you ever tried to make your kids write about the situation when they get into trouble??? If so, have you found it to be helpful? And don't worry, I learned my lesson, they will NOT be going anywhere or doing anything unsupervised with her for a LOOONNGGG time, if ever. [/QUOTE]
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