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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 552702" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>As others have said, she is middle of a big transformation. It is tough for kids. Those college classes are probably a big change from high school classes. I'm not from USA but I think it tends to be same everywhere. Style of teaching, what is asked for, grading etc. all changes. Kids who have used to getting perfect marks find out they are not able to do it any more, at least not as easily and not from the beginning. In our Universities kids are often graded mostly based on one final exam, especially in basic classes, more advanced are often graded by projects etc. they do. And kids are allowed to take those exams again if they fail or are not happy with their grade. First exam results for incoming students are usually brutal. I have seen results, there 200 kids took the exam and 30 passed, five of them getting five (best grade), other five getting middle grades and rest twenty getting one (worst passing grade), all the others failed. Expectations and how one should answer the questions, how to study etc. change so much from high school to next level that it often takes a little bit time for kids to get a handle of it. Your daughter seems driven, she will most likely get a handle of it quickly. Just now she could maybe use some encouragement and you telling her that she can make it, if she wants to. Not being a smartest kid in the room any more may be a little shock for her and she may doubt her abilities. Of course she may also decide that pre-medication is not for her and change to something else. </p><p></p><p>Are you able to have a candid talk about how she feels about her peers? Wanting to spend time with younger kids tells me that she may feel little bit out of water with her peers. Are most of her college peers living in dorms? That can make it difficult for her to include herself to their activities. Or maybe she feels their interests are different? If she has lived sheltered life till now, her college peers may feel to wild for her. With High School aged kids she may feel being in stronger footing. Maybe you could try to encourage her to find some extracurricular activities in her college. Some club that plays to her interests. She may have difficult time making friends in classes and if it seems to her that others are making friends somewhere else (like dorms), she may find it difficult to feel included.</p><p></p><p>How is student health care in her college? Do they have any counselling services? That could be her best option right now. Those counsellors have seen all types of 'settling into college life' problems and are probably well-equipped to advise her on how to get more comfortable with college life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 552702, member: 14557"] As others have said, she is middle of a big transformation. It is tough for kids. Those college classes are probably a big change from high school classes. I'm not from USA but I think it tends to be same everywhere. Style of teaching, what is asked for, grading etc. all changes. Kids who have used to getting perfect marks find out they are not able to do it any more, at least not as easily and not from the beginning. In our Universities kids are often graded mostly based on one final exam, especially in basic classes, more advanced are often graded by projects etc. they do. And kids are allowed to take those exams again if they fail or are not happy with their grade. First exam results for incoming students are usually brutal. I have seen results, there 200 kids took the exam and 30 passed, five of them getting five (best grade), other five getting middle grades and rest twenty getting one (worst passing grade), all the others failed. Expectations and how one should answer the questions, how to study etc. change so much from high school to next level that it often takes a little bit time for kids to get a handle of it. Your daughter seems driven, she will most likely get a handle of it quickly. Just now she could maybe use some encouragement and you telling her that she can make it, if she wants to. Not being a smartest kid in the room any more may be a little shock for her and she may doubt her abilities. Of course she may also decide that pre-medication is not for her and change to something else. Are you able to have a candid talk about how she feels about her peers? Wanting to spend time with younger kids tells me that she may feel little bit out of water with her peers. Are most of her college peers living in dorms? That can make it difficult for her to include herself to their activities. Or maybe she feels their interests are different? If she has lived sheltered life till now, her college peers may feel to wild for her. With High School aged kids she may feel being in stronger footing. Maybe you could try to encourage her to find some extracurricular activities in her college. Some club that plays to her interests. She may have difficult time making friends in classes and if it seems to her that others are making friends somewhere else (like dorms), she may find it difficult to feel included. How is student health care in her college? Do they have any counselling services? That could be her best option right now. Those counsellors have seen all types of 'settling into college life' problems and are probably well-equipped to advise her on how to get more comfortable with college life. [/QUOTE]
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