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<blockquote data-quote="allhaileris" data-source="post: 552764" data-attributes="member: 5663"><p>I was a late bloomer and hung out with younger people right after college. That was the age that my maturity just hit that point of needing to go out and have some fun, and not in the best of ways. I never got in trouble for anything I did, but I very well could have. I was a great kid through HS and most of my college years. I look back at it now and wish I'd have gone to college for a couple more years just to get that experience, knowing how I matured and when I hit certain points. But you know what, I needed all that experience. I needed to go through what I went through in order to become who I am now. I wouldn't change those experiences at all.</p><p></p><p>I guess I'm saying give her some space to be "bad". Let her be irresponsible, this is the only time in her life she'll get this pass to do so. She's young and is allowed to do stupid things and she needs to learn from them. If she was always a good kid, she still has that in her. She'll still make sure she's safe and probably wont do anything super dumb. </p><p></p><p>Does she really want to go to medical school? Has she looked into anything else? One of the reasons I wish I had more time in college is to be able to take a variety of classes and get my feet wet doing other things. I had a very narrow focus in school, I was determined that I'd get a job in the TV/Film industry in LA. What happened? I did internships and decided I didn't really like some of the stuff. I didn't want to get paid minimum wage. I got tired of LA and moved to NorCal. I did end up working in the entertainment industry in a way (event services for concerts, nightclubs, performing arts groups) but got tired of that too, plus the pay wasn't great. I kept teaching myself and now I work for a money manager and do a variety of things, because I'm self motivated. I wish now I would've gone to school for computer programming. I took a C++ class a few years back (just for the fun of it) and it was pretty easy for my brain to pick that up.</p><p></p><p>Make her try some other things in school. If she doesn't want to study that hard now, or is trying to get used to the transition, give her some breathing room and have her take easier classes. </p><p></p><p>And she's driving 70 miles to see her friends because it's in an environment that she can have fun and relax. It's away from you, school, her responsibilities. When I was depressed I'd do the same thing, drive home on the weekends to hang out with friends of a different group (my mom was never home). And if she's being short with you, doesn't want to study, etc, maybe there is some depression going on as well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="allhaileris, post: 552764, member: 5663"] I was a late bloomer and hung out with younger people right after college. That was the age that my maturity just hit that point of needing to go out and have some fun, and not in the best of ways. I never got in trouble for anything I did, but I very well could have. I was a great kid through HS and most of my college years. I look back at it now and wish I'd have gone to college for a couple more years just to get that experience, knowing how I matured and when I hit certain points. But you know what, I needed all that experience. I needed to go through what I went through in order to become who I am now. I wouldn't change those experiences at all. I guess I'm saying give her some space to be "bad". Let her be irresponsible, this is the only time in her life she'll get this pass to do so. She's young and is allowed to do stupid things and she needs to learn from them. If she was always a good kid, she still has that in her. She'll still make sure she's safe and probably wont do anything super dumb. Does she really want to go to medical school? Has she looked into anything else? One of the reasons I wish I had more time in college is to be able to take a variety of classes and get my feet wet doing other things. I had a very narrow focus in school, I was determined that I'd get a job in the TV/Film industry in LA. What happened? I did internships and decided I didn't really like some of the stuff. I didn't want to get paid minimum wage. I got tired of LA and moved to NorCal. I did end up working in the entertainment industry in a way (event services for concerts, nightclubs, performing arts groups) but got tired of that too, plus the pay wasn't great. I kept teaching myself and now I work for a money manager and do a variety of things, because I'm self motivated. I wish now I would've gone to school for computer programming. I took a C++ class a few years back (just for the fun of it) and it was pretty easy for my brain to pick that up. Make her try some other things in school. If she doesn't want to study that hard now, or is trying to get used to the transition, give her some breathing room and have her take easier classes. And she's driving 70 miles to see her friends because it's in an environment that she can have fun and relax. It's away from you, school, her responsibilities. When I was depressed I'd do the same thing, drive home on the weekends to hang out with friends of a different group (my mom was never home). And if she's being short with you, doesn't want to study, etc, maybe there is some depression going on as well. [/QUOTE]
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