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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 657546" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Good Morning BG,</p><p>Thanks for the update on what's going on.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Ok, this is exactly what Difficult Child do, they tell others things like this to get people to feel sorry for them. I know it's easier said than done, but you really have nothing to feel guilty about. His choices have created the chaotic life he is living. He did it to himself. As for him saying "he just needs to get out of CO" I have been there a few times with my son. When they do this they are just running from themselves. They have a fantasy in their mind that if they just go to "town USA" that it will all get better. If they can't deal with their problems where they are nothing will change for them. My son couldn't wait to get out of CO, he has lived in 3 other states and now he's back in CO.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This is not a stupid thing. I think it's great that you have a job interview. You have another child there that you want to be close to. These are your choices and need to be based solely on what is good for you. Plan your life for YOU, do what will bring you joy.</p><p>So what if your son is here in IL and you are in CO, his choices are not your concern and you do not owe him any kind of explanation as to whether you move to CO or not.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Don't walk, <strong><u>RUN</u></strong> away from this thinking as fast as you can. I know he is your son and you love him, that is not lost on me or anyone else here on this site. We get it. We live it. This is the same son that attacked you and put you in the ICU. While what he did is beyond horrific it's something that can be forgiven, however, do not confuse forgiveness with trust. <strong><u>He is not to be trusted!!!!!!</u></strong></p><p>He is a 26 year old man, if he wants to come back to IL that is on him, do not get involved.</p><p></p><p>BG, focus on YOUR life not his.</p><p></p><p>One thing that really helped me was to work through the stages of grief. Greif is not just for when someone dies. I mourned the loss of the sweet son I used to have, I mourned the loss of the son I had hoped he would be. There are stages of grief that are filled with emotion. Feel them, own them, let them go.</p><p></p><p><img src="http://in1.ccio.co/KA/67/mA/226657793716111040OYNtjhAnc.jpg" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 657546, member: 18516"] Good Morning BG, Thanks for the update on what's going on. Ok, this is exactly what Difficult Child do, they tell others things like this to get people to feel sorry for them. I know it's easier said than done, but you really have nothing to feel guilty about. His choices have created the chaotic life he is living. He did it to himself. As for him saying "he just needs to get out of CO" I have been there a few times with my son. When they do this they are just running from themselves. They have a fantasy in their mind that if they just go to "town USA" that it will all get better. If they can't deal with their problems where they are nothing will change for them. My son couldn't wait to get out of CO, he has lived in 3 other states and now he's back in CO. This is not a stupid thing. I think it's great that you have a job interview. You have another child there that you want to be close to. These are your choices and need to be based solely on what is good for you. Plan your life for YOU, do what will bring you joy. So what if your son is here in IL and you are in CO, his choices are not your concern and you do not owe him any kind of explanation as to whether you move to CO or not. Don't walk, [B][U]RUN[/U][/B] away from this thinking as fast as you can. I know he is your son and you love him, that is not lost on me or anyone else here on this site. We get it. We live it. This is the same son that attacked you and put you in the ICU. While what he did is beyond horrific it's something that can be forgiven, however, do not confuse forgiveness with trust. [B][U]He is not to be trusted!!!!!![/U][/B] He is a 26 year old man, if he wants to come back to IL that is on him, do not get involved. BG, focus on YOUR life not his. One thing that really helped me was to work through the stages of grief. Greif is not just for when someone dies. I mourned the loss of the sweet son I used to have, I mourned the loss of the son I had hoped he would be. There are stages of grief that are filled with emotion. Feel them, own them, let them go. [IMG]http://in1.ccio.co/KA/67/mA/226657793716111040OYNtjhAnc.jpg[/IMG] [/QUOTE]
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