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OMG, I am so tired of his twisted sense of reality--long rant
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 380929" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p><em></em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>As I know this will be against everything everyone else here tells you - here goes- he's holding this and your "he has a diagnosis of asbergers" against you. He's taking it for everything he can, not necessarily intentional, but in my humble opinion, you are making it quite easy for him to do so. And on top of that, he's angry with you and feels like **** about himself and like he can't fit in with peers because he now has that label. I'm not saying this to add to your burden or place blame on you- I know how hard this can be. But if you keep accepting messages that if he'd just take another medication (when you don't see them working), or the sd would just do something different (when he isn't getting better no matter what they do) or if you would just handle things a different way (despite your efforts), you are in denial because you don't want to accept that despite your best efforts he isn't displaying those qualities you tried so hard to instill in him. And that means the focus is on you feeling like a failure. And don't get me wrong- I have fought suacidal feelings as a result of this- I truly understand. But I personally have reached a point where I have to let go of my dreams for my son and concentrate more on what can get him to adulthood.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>It isn't necessarily your fault. It is about the hardest thing a parent can come to terms with. I might be shunned from the board for saying it but there it is.</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 380929, member: 3699"] [I] As I know this will be against everything everyone else here tells you - here goes- he's holding this and your "he has a diagnosis of asbergers" against you. He's taking it for everything he can, not necessarily intentional, but in my humble opinion, you are making it quite easy for him to do so. And on top of that, he's angry with you and feels like **** about himself and like he can't fit in with peers because he now has that label. I'm not saying this to add to your burden or place blame on you- I know how hard this can be. But if you keep accepting messages that if he'd just take another medication (when you don't see them working), or the sd would just do something different (when he isn't getting better no matter what they do) or if you would just handle things a different way (despite your efforts), you are in denial because you don't want to accept that despite your best efforts he isn't displaying those qualities you tried so hard to instill in him. And that means the focus is on you feeling like a failure. And don't get me wrong- I have fought suacidal feelings as a result of this- I truly understand. But I personally have reached a point where I have to let go of my dreams for my son and concentrate more on what can get him to adulthood. It isn't necessarily your fault. It is about the hardest thing a parent can come to terms with. I might be shunned from the board for saying it but there it is.[/i] [/QUOTE]
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