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OMG, I am so tired of his twisted sense of reality--long rant
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 380998" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Terry--</p><p> </p><p>First big ((((hugs))))</p><p> </p><p>Second - let me share my observations...which by the way, I am <em>recognizing</em> - NOT accusing.</p><p> </p><p>I am recognizing because I do the same things myself. I read your post and I hear a Mom trying so hard to please her son. You fix dinner, you serve dinner - you even take it back to the kitchen to make adjustments so it will be more to his liking.</p><p> </p><p>You try to engage him in conversation. You try to share. You try to make him laugh. You try to make him smile.</p><p> </p><p>And to all of this...</p><p> </p><p>he responds like a TOTAL JERK.</p><p> </p><p>This has been the story in my house, too. </p><p> </p><p>Finally, our therapist asked what was the worst thing that would happen if I stopped being a loving Mom and husband stopped acting like a doting Dad. Hmmm? Well, we guessed difficult child would be really angry at us. The therapist asked how that would be different from the way she was acting right now?</p><p> </p><p>That gave us a lot to think about. And it made us question why we were putting so much effort into trying to please a person who could not be pleased.</p><p> </p><p>Well, that definitely gave us something to think about.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child is old enough that you do not need to cater to him. I think you should stop. Make a space for yourself where difficult child cannot go (like a nice studio outside your home) and spend some time there just for you.</p><p> </p><p>You need it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 380998, member: 6546"] Terry-- First big ((((hugs)))) Second - let me share my observations...which by the way, I am [I]recognizing[/I] - NOT accusing. I am recognizing because I do the same things myself. I read your post and I hear a Mom trying so hard to please her son. You fix dinner, you serve dinner - you even take it back to the kitchen to make adjustments so it will be more to his liking. You try to engage him in conversation. You try to share. You try to make him laugh. You try to make him smile. And to all of this... he responds like a TOTAL JERK. This has been the story in my house, too. Finally, our therapist asked what was the worst thing that would happen if I stopped being a loving Mom and husband stopped acting like a doting Dad. Hmmm? Well, we guessed difficult child would be really angry at us. The therapist asked how that would be different from the way she was acting right now? That gave us a lot to think about. And it made us question why we were putting so much effort into trying to please a person who could not be pleased. Well, that definitely gave us something to think about. difficult child is old enough that you do not need to cater to him. I think you should stop. Make a space for yourself where difficult child cannot go (like a nice studio outside your home) and spend some time there just for you. You need it. [/QUOTE]
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