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<blockquote data-quote="Tired out" data-source="post: 735308" data-attributes="member: 23103"><p>I have come to the conclusion there isn't anything we could have done differently. We just wish there was. We would rather blame ourselves than our messed up kid. It is hard to look back and see how adorable they were and now what they have become. When we saw ours starting to struggle with right and wrong and hanging with some less than desirable people we tried to redirect. When he was 16, I even went to so far as to drive him to my sisters 3 states away and take his phone. I left him with them for the summer. His uncle is a police detective. I was hoping that would make some kind of impression. It did.for a little bit. We offered counseling (you can lead a horse to water...) that was refused. He made it through high school, with me standing over him. He would do his homework and not hand it in! He would take the state tests (actually read and answer) always tested as accelerated, smirked and still didn't hand in his homework. Was fantastic baseball player, 11th grade--quit. No talking to him about it. Anything he thought we wanted him to do he purposefully didn't. </p><p>I think many feel their kid is messed up because financially (as a family) they struggled. We have had no struggles there and yet....still a messed up kid. we never paid him off to do things. never bought him a car, phone etc..he had to earn what he got that were luxuries. Still he has no financial sense. Or he does and doesn't care. He is out of our house now. Living with 2 other guys. spending money he doesn't have. His mail still comes here. I don't open it. I tell him it's here and he picks it up (I have a spot to put it for him, I refuse to work my schedule around when he may or may not show up) I don't know how he is going to pay the cc bills he is racking up..the banks keep sending him more cards. </p><p>Sorry for the long post.. </p><p>I just want to show you the craziness and re-iterate. it's NOT your fault.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tired out, post: 735308, member: 23103"] I have come to the conclusion there isn't anything we could have done differently. We just wish there was. We would rather blame ourselves than our messed up kid. It is hard to look back and see how adorable they were and now what they have become. When we saw ours starting to struggle with right and wrong and hanging with some less than desirable people we tried to redirect. When he was 16, I even went to so far as to drive him to my sisters 3 states away and take his phone. I left him with them for the summer. His uncle is a police detective. I was hoping that would make some kind of impression. It did.for a little bit. We offered counseling (you can lead a horse to water...) that was refused. He made it through high school, with me standing over him. He would do his homework and not hand it in! He would take the state tests (actually read and answer) always tested as accelerated, smirked and still didn't hand in his homework. Was fantastic baseball player, 11th grade--quit. No talking to him about it. Anything he thought we wanted him to do he purposefully didn't. I think many feel their kid is messed up because financially (as a family) they struggled. We have had no struggles there and yet....still a messed up kid. we never paid him off to do things. never bought him a car, phone etc..he had to earn what he got that were luxuries. Still he has no financial sense. Or he does and doesn't care. He is out of our house now. Living with 2 other guys. spending money he doesn't have. His mail still comes here. I don't open it. I tell him it's here and he picks it up (I have a spot to put it for him, I refuse to work my schedule around when he may or may not show up) I don't know how he is going to pay the cc bills he is racking up..the banks keep sending him more cards. Sorry for the long post.. I just want to show you the craziness and re-iterate. it's NOT your fault. [/QUOTE]
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