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One of those sleepless nights and sadness-filled mornings
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 640921" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>It isn't that the things that happen when we love difficult child kids are so difficult, it is that the time between difficult things can be so sweet. We begin to reach a new normal, we become acclimated to our lives and our losses. We even reach a place where hope brightens the edges of things again and we come to believe joy is possible. We retire that harder, more brittle part of us that was able to stand right up to whatever was needed, or that was able to refuse to do one thing more.</p><p></p><p>We lose sight of that place of courage where we stood, where it was possible to look it all in the face and get on with it.</p><p></p><p>Life is too sweet to go back there, to go back in...but we do it. There was someone who posted here about not judging our difficult children. I was offended at first, thinking that of course I was not judging them. But then, I realized that even to regret their choices for them was holding them to a standard I had chosen for my life, but they had rejected, for theirs.</p><p></p><p>That helped me a little, to think of it that way.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry to hear that the grandfather has died, Lucy.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 640921, member: 17461"] It isn't that the things that happen when we love difficult child kids are so difficult, it is that the time between difficult things can be so sweet. We begin to reach a new normal, we become acclimated to our lives and our losses. We even reach a place where hope brightens the edges of things again and we come to believe joy is possible. We retire that harder, more brittle part of us that was able to stand right up to whatever was needed, or that was able to refuse to do one thing more. We lose sight of that place of courage where we stood, where it was possible to look it all in the face and get on with it. Life is too sweet to go back there, to go back in...but we do it. There was someone who posted here about not judging our difficult children. I was offended at first, thinking that of course I was not judging them. But then, I realized that even to regret their choices for them was holding them to a standard I had chosen for my life, but they had rejected, for theirs. That helped me a little, to think of it that way. I am sorry to hear that the grandfather has died, Lucy. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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