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One way to get difficult child to leave house without me actually having to move
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 636697" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Lil, much depends on the local and state laws as to what happens if you just box an adult child's stuff up and leave it on the step outside and change the locks. In some (many) states, it is actually illegal to do that, whether your difficult child is aware enough to know this or not. what will you do if the difficult child calls the cops because you changed the locks and put his stuff out? what if they tell you that you must allow him in because that is his legal residence? You don't really have a choice at that point, unless you can prove abuse. In some areas, even proving that you were physically abused won't get them to make your difficult child leave. I have a friend in another state who got a restraining order against her boyfriend, but could not legally make him leave their home AND could not take their child when she left because she did not have a custody order. He didn't have custody, but the home was said to be the child's home and the RO did not mean that the boyfriend had to leave or that his custody of the child was unchanged as they had no custody orders or agreements. If she wanted a PRAYER of custody, she had to stay in the home iwth her abuser or else she would be 'abandoning' the child by leaving. the cops agreed it was crazy, but they could not change things or make her boyfriend let her take the child with her. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, the laws regarding legal residency are sometimes difficult to negotiate. we had a member who's difficult child let a 'friend' spend ONE night in her home and the next day the 'friend' claimed residency and it took them months to get this person out. Literally months to make this person who spent ONE night in the home leave. So if you let an adult move in, get an agreement in writing concerning when they will leave or they might not have to. </p><p></p><p>Of course if the person doesn't know they have rights and don't have to leave sometimes you can get away with just throwing them out, but if they call the cops you can be in trouble.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 636697, member: 1233"] Lil, much depends on the local and state laws as to what happens if you just box an adult child's stuff up and leave it on the step outside and change the locks. In some (many) states, it is actually illegal to do that, whether your difficult child is aware enough to know this or not. what will you do if the difficult child calls the cops because you changed the locks and put his stuff out? what if they tell you that you must allow him in because that is his legal residence? You don't really have a choice at that point, unless you can prove abuse. In some areas, even proving that you were physically abused won't get them to make your difficult child leave. I have a friend in another state who got a restraining order against her boyfriend, but could not legally make him leave their home AND could not take their child when she left because she did not have a custody order. He didn't have custody, but the home was said to be the child's home and the RO did not mean that the boyfriend had to leave or that his custody of the child was unchanged as they had no custody orders or agreements. If she wanted a PRAYER of custody, she had to stay in the home iwth her abuser or else she would be 'abandoning' the child by leaving. the cops agreed it was crazy, but they could not change things or make her boyfriend let her take the child with her. Anyway, the laws regarding legal residency are sometimes difficult to negotiate. we had a member who's difficult child let a 'friend' spend ONE night in her home and the next day the 'friend' claimed residency and it took them months to get this person out. Literally months to make this person who spent ONE night in the home leave. So if you let an adult move in, get an agreement in writing concerning when they will leave or they might not have to. Of course if the person doesn't know they have rights and don't have to leave sometimes you can get away with just throwing them out, but if they call the cops you can be in trouble. [/QUOTE]
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