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Oops, I did it again, I texted pain...and it hurt
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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 519245" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Sig,</p><p>If it took 13 hours to get a brief "thanks, mom" to your first text, which was touching and heartfelt by the way, then don't be alarmed that you haven't heard anything after the 2nd text. There could be a variety of reasons why he didn't respond the 2nd time. </p><p></p><p>1. he could be mortified and ashamed of his foolishness, and this Birthday text reminded him of these feelings he's buried and he's not ready to confront the magnitude of the losses his behavior has caused;</p><p>2. he knows if he answers that the dialogue will continue, and if he's not ready to make any changes, continued conversation is only going to lead to more arguments and end in futility anyway;</p><p>3. he's still angry at you for what he considers your "controlling" behavior and he's resisting facing his role in this whole nightmare;</p><p>4. he may not believe you're genuine...that you're setting him up to feel guilty;</p><p>5. his girlfriend reads his texts and he doesn't want to be nagged by her for repairing his relationship with you;</p><p></p><p>We could all speculate on and on, but only your son can truly answer for his lack of response. In the meantime, don't beat yourself up for taking the high road. I think also that his conscience must be functioning, because he did send your other son a card and gift on his birthday, which means he's still feeling connected to his family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 519245, member: 13882"] Sig, If it took 13 hours to get a brief "thanks, mom" to your first text, which was touching and heartfelt by the way, then don't be alarmed that you haven't heard anything after the 2nd text. There could be a variety of reasons why he didn't respond the 2nd time. 1. he could be mortified and ashamed of his foolishness, and this Birthday text reminded him of these feelings he's buried and he's not ready to confront the magnitude of the losses his behavior has caused; 2. he knows if he answers that the dialogue will continue, and if he's not ready to make any changes, continued conversation is only going to lead to more arguments and end in futility anyway; 3. he's still angry at you for what he considers your "controlling" behavior and he's resisting facing his role in this whole nightmare; 4. he may not believe you're genuine...that you're setting him up to feel guilty; 5. his girlfriend reads his texts and he doesn't want to be nagged by her for repairing his relationship with you; We could all speculate on and on, but only your son can truly answer for his lack of response. In the meantime, don't beat yourself up for taking the high road. I think also that his conscience must be functioning, because he did send your other son a card and gift on his birthday, which means he's still feeling connected to his family. [/QUOTE]
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