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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 92839" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I have to give an opinion here. I will truly NOT be offended if you ignore it, and I do NOT want to insult anyone else's choices. But I might with this, so ignore me if you feel I am off base for your family.</p><p></p><p>I spent a whole lot of time and effort and money to get help for my difficult child. I did not begrudge any of it. I DID begrudge the attitude that my other children were not as important as difficult child was. The impact of different things on my other children was almost NEVER a factor. At one point a therapist wanted me to PAY difficult child to be nice, pleasant, civil, or basically anything that did not cause physical harm. The goal was to make difficult child want to be nice to Jess. But what did it say to Jess?? That she was so worthless I had to PAY her BRO to not hurt her????</p><p></p><p>When I put it that way he (and his supervisor - to whom I ocmplained verbally andin writing) saw the problem. </p><p></p><p>It seems to me that when interventions come up many professionals think that we should do every little thing to make the rest of the family not upset difficult child. Not trigger him, whatever. ALL resources should be directed at difficult child in the eyes of many service providers. </p><p></p><p>I HATE THIS. I think that EACH kid is just as valuable. And I think that there is nothing wrong with doing what we need to maximize the amount of positive family time, but NOT at the expense of any one child.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes it has to be all about person A. And other times about person B. But we, as parents, have to make sure our other children don't get lost in the shuffle. (I know most of us do, but it is so hard esp when the "experts" don't take this into the planning.).</p><p></p><p>I do not know on the concerta. I think I would have to evaluate giving him a powerful medication based on HIS behavior and needs at school. I think that any professional who recommended medications for one child because then he would trigger my other child less would have to be carefully evaluated as to his ocntinuing service to my family. I would have to think about what to do - keep him for difficult child and get another doctor for easy child? keep him for both, get new for both, run screaming into the night after dropping the kids off at his house? (JK on the last one!)</p><p></p><p>Off my soap box now. I just saw so much of htis in the "pros" we consulted, and it scared me.</p><p></p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 92839, member: 1233"] I have to give an opinion here. I will truly NOT be offended if you ignore it, and I do NOT want to insult anyone else's choices. But I might with this, so ignore me if you feel I am off base for your family. I spent a whole lot of time and effort and money to get help for my difficult child. I did not begrudge any of it. I DID begrudge the attitude that my other children were not as important as difficult child was. The impact of different things on my other children was almost NEVER a factor. At one point a therapist wanted me to PAY difficult child to be nice, pleasant, civil, or basically anything that did not cause physical harm. The goal was to make difficult child want to be nice to Jess. But what did it say to Jess?? That she was so worthless I had to PAY her BRO to not hurt her???? When I put it that way he (and his supervisor - to whom I ocmplained verbally andin writing) saw the problem. It seems to me that when interventions come up many professionals think that we should do every little thing to make the rest of the family not upset difficult child. Not trigger him, whatever. ALL resources should be directed at difficult child in the eyes of many service providers. I HATE THIS. I think that EACH kid is just as valuable. And I think that there is nothing wrong with doing what we need to maximize the amount of positive family time, but NOT at the expense of any one child. Sometimes it has to be all about person A. And other times about person B. But we, as parents, have to make sure our other children don't get lost in the shuffle. (I know most of us do, but it is so hard esp when the "experts" don't take this into the planning.). I do not know on the concerta. I think I would have to evaluate giving him a powerful medication based on HIS behavior and needs at school. I think that any professional who recommended medications for one child because then he would trigger my other child less would have to be carefully evaluated as to his ocntinuing service to my family. I would have to think about what to do - keep him for difficult child and get another doctor for easy child? keep him for both, get new for both, run screaming into the night after dropping the kids off at his house? (JK on the last one!) Off my soap box now. I just saw so much of htis in the "pros" we consulted, and it scared me. Susie [/QUOTE]
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