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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 105421"><p>My mom used to tell me that there was a place on earth for people like me and it's called 3rd shift. Unfortunately, I've never worked 3rd shift so I was forcing a 3rd shift body into a 1st shift world. I'm not wired that way and never have been. By Friday every week I was exhausted as I averaged no more than 5 hours sleep a night during the week. There is actually a name for it. It's called <a href="http://www.sleepeducation.com/Disorder.aspx?id=30" target="_blank">Delayed Sleep Phase</a>. Whether that's your daughter or not, I don't know, but it's a possibility.</p><p></p><p>easy child is 16 years old and he gets himself up for school at 6am. This is his first year doing it. There have been some times (like now and the past 2 weeks) when he's been stressed (because of the move) and I've had to get him up. Not an easy feat, either. But then, I'm not easy to wake and he's always been like me when it comes to sleep. Weekends or days off school (work in your case) are for sleeping in. on the other hand, difficult child has always been easy to wake, was always an early riser and always required less sleep than easy child or I (she averaged 6 hours a night as a pre-schooler). She has been staying up later and sleeping in later lately, but I attribute that more to her age and depression.</p><p></p><p>I guess you can tell I wouldn't have an issue with the sleep thing. I would have serious issues with her not doing her chores, not picking up her bra when you <em>specifically</em> asked her to and not paying - or attempting to pay - rent. </p><p></p><p>easy child and I have had several knock-down-drag-outs over chores lately. My kids don't have specific chores other than easy child does trash and difficult child feeds the animals - and they both have to pick up after themselves. I will call them into the kitchen from their rooms or even from outside to put their dishes into the dishwasher from the sink. And, I expect them to help when needed; if they see something needs to be done, do it and if I ask for something specific I expect it to be done promptly. That comes with being part of the family and sharing responsibility. easy child wants the house to be clean, but seems to think that getting it that way doesn't involve him. </p><p></p><p>As your difficult child is an adult, living with you is a privilege. By not doing chores without nagging from you and by not paying rent, she's taking advantage of you. If I were living at home and not paying rent for whatever reason, I would certainly want to help out wherever I could. Having respect for you home, your space and your stuff is a big deal. Would she like it if you dropped your bra in her room and just left it? </p><p></p><p>by the way, I just noticed that you say in your sig that you're severely depressed. I hadn't noticed that before. Are you doing anything for you? Talking to anyone? Depression severely affects one's frustration threshold, among other things.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 105421"] My mom used to tell me that there was a place on earth for people like me and it's called 3rd shift. Unfortunately, I've never worked 3rd shift so I was forcing a 3rd shift body into a 1st shift world. I'm not wired that way and never have been. By Friday every week I was exhausted as I averaged no more than 5 hours sleep a night during the week. There is actually a name for it. It's called [url="http://www.sleepeducation.com/Disorder.aspx?id=30"]Delayed Sleep Phase[/url]. Whether that's your daughter or not, I don't know, but it's a possibility. easy child is 16 years old and he gets himself up for school at 6am. This is his first year doing it. There have been some times (like now and the past 2 weeks) when he's been stressed (because of the move) and I've had to get him up. Not an easy feat, either. But then, I'm not easy to wake and he's always been like me when it comes to sleep. Weekends or days off school (work in your case) are for sleeping in. on the other hand, difficult child has always been easy to wake, was always an early riser and always required less sleep than easy child or I (she averaged 6 hours a night as a pre-schooler). She has been staying up later and sleeping in later lately, but I attribute that more to her age and depression. I guess you can tell I wouldn't have an issue with the sleep thing. I would have serious issues with her not doing her chores, not picking up her bra when you [i]specifically[/i] asked her to and not paying - or attempting to pay - rent. easy child and I have had several knock-down-drag-outs over chores lately. My kids don't have specific chores other than easy child does trash and difficult child feeds the animals - and they both have to pick up after themselves. I will call them into the kitchen from their rooms or even from outside to put their dishes into the dishwasher from the sink. And, I expect them to help when needed; if they see something needs to be done, do it and if I ask for something specific I expect it to be done promptly. That comes with being part of the family and sharing responsibility. easy child wants the house to be clean, but seems to think that getting it that way doesn't involve him. As your difficult child is an adult, living with you is a privilege. By not doing chores without nagging from you and by not paying rent, she's taking advantage of you. If I were living at home and not paying rent for whatever reason, I would certainly want to help out wherever I could. Having respect for you home, your space and your stuff is a big deal. Would she like it if you dropped your bra in her room and just left it? by the way, I just noticed that you say in your sig that you're severely depressed. I hadn't noticed that before. Are you doing anything for you? Talking to anyone? Depression severely affects one's frustration threshold, among other things. [/QUOTE]
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