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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 105468" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>I agree with gg. I understand about sleep schedules, circadium rythyms and all that other good stuff that makes complete sense. My difficult child would sleep until 12:30-1:00 every day, except she still goes to bed by midnight - she just loves to sleep and apparently she needs lots of sleep. I don't mind if she sleeps till 10, but after that, c'mon - get up already. She hardly ever has time to take care of things that need to be done because she sleeps and goes out, there is no time for anything else. Part of her living at home again means that she will have to conform a little. Tough <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> if she doesn't like it. I left her a note this morning to dust the house, take out the trash and do her laundry (so I can do mine later). I KNOW she will not do at least 2 of those things. I also just saw on the calendar that she is missing a DR appointment RIGHT NOW. I feel your pain.</p><p></p><p>I personally think 10AM is reasonable. And I think holding down a job is a reasonable expectation. Paying rent is reasonable. Picking up after herself in a timely fashion is reasonable.</p><p></p><p>I think you need to put these reasonable conditions down on paper, with bullets to accentuate each point and present it to her in a calm setting, say after dinner, alone at the kitchen table. It is up to her to figure out that getting up at 10 means going to sleep a bit earlier than 3AM.</p><p></p><p>Try to keep your voice neutral and even if she says something or makes a facial expression that sends you over the edge, remain focused on your goal. Best of luck...even the best laid plans go awry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 105468, member: 2211"] I agree with gg. I understand about sleep schedules, circadium rythyms and all that other good stuff that makes complete sense. My difficult child would sleep until 12:30-1:00 every day, except she still goes to bed by midnight - she just loves to sleep and apparently she needs lots of sleep. I don't mind if she sleeps till 10, but after that, c'mon - get up already. She hardly ever has time to take care of things that need to be done because she sleeps and goes out, there is no time for anything else. Part of her living at home again means that she will have to conform a little. Tough :censored: if she doesn't like it. I left her a note this morning to dust the house, take out the trash and do her laundry (so I can do mine later). I KNOW she will not do at least 2 of those things. I also just saw on the calendar that she is missing a DR appointment RIGHT NOW. I feel your pain. I personally think 10AM is reasonable. And I think holding down a job is a reasonable expectation. Paying rent is reasonable. Picking up after herself in a timely fashion is reasonable. I think you need to put these reasonable conditions down on paper, with bullets to accentuate each point and present it to her in a calm setting, say after dinner, alone at the kitchen table. It is up to her to figure out that getting up at 10 means going to sleep a bit earlier than 3AM. Try to keep your voice neutral and even if she says something or makes a facial expression that sends you over the edge, remain focused on your goal. Best of luck...even the best laid plans go awry. [/QUOTE]
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