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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 333068" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Welcome! Sorry I did not comment earlier. You have gotten some great advice! I want to add some more.</p><p></p><p>Do NOT waste time worrying about the separation causing this. I spent YEARS being told by my mother that when my husband and I moved to a different state than my mother it caused all the problems my difficult child has. My mom worked HARD to get me to believe that. Wiz is her first grandchild and we lived down the street from her house. She rarely went 24 hours with-o seeing him and even more rarely went into ANY kind of store with-o buying something for him. Sadly this continued until Wiz believed that my parents were better at raising him than husband and I were. He eventually got so violent and refused to be parented by us that I had to send him to live with my parents. We are in the same town but it broke my heart. It sure was a wake up call to my mother. She learned in the first year just how hard it was to parent him. </p><p></p><p>do NOT let ANYONE sell you that pack of lies. </p><p></p><p>There CAN be happy futures with ODD. To get to that point takes a lot of work. You must figure out the underlying cause and work to treat that cause. You also have to learn to be firm and consistent. Which is not easy or fun most of the time. One of the BEST ways to do this is to use the philosophy of "Do to Get". The child must do something to EARN what he wants. Period. This is very effective at dealing with the sense of entitlement that our children all seem to have.</p><p></p><p>I think you need to consult an Occupational Therapist to have your child evaluated for sensory integration disorder. Basically that means the brain cannot process info from the senses. There are ways to help this. Almost all children who sound like yours have some sensory issues. The therapy for this can be incredibly effective. I firmly believe that my youngest would have an Asperger's diagnosis or hig functioning autistic spectrum disorder diagnosis if we had not treated his sensory problems aggressively at an early age. You can read The Out of Sync Child and the Out of Sync Child Has Fun by Kranowitz to learn more about it. For my children the treatment has been almost magically successful. I highly recommend the "Has Fun" version. It is crammed with activities to fit any and every type of Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) problem. It also has many many ways to do the activities on the cheap. I had the books before thank you was evaluated. By following what he liked and didn't like I pretty much identified his problems and knew most of what we were dealing with and had many ways to cope with it. </p><p></p><p>I know you had an evaluation and teh doctor ruled out Aspergers. in my opinion the person who evaluated your son did not fully understand the problems. Your son sounds SO MUCH like my son and very very very much like a person with Asperger. I urge you to keep your mind open and continue to evaluate this. It really sounds like your son has Aspergers. </p><p></p><p>If possible I recommend finding a developmental pediatrician to help you figure things out. They can be a big help.</p><p></p><p>The other thing I strongly recommend is to do a Parent Report. This is a report that you write about your child. It helps keep all the info straight and easy to find. The form was created by other moms here on the site so that we could take info to te docs and schools and know what we were communicating.</p><p></p><p>You can find the form on the FAQ section of this website under the FAQ segment of this site. Look for Parent Input as the title of the thread. </p><p></p><p>Sending hugs,</p><p></p><p>Suse</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 333068, member: 1233"] Welcome! Sorry I did not comment earlier. You have gotten some great advice! I want to add some more. Do NOT waste time worrying about the separation causing this. I spent YEARS being told by my mother that when my husband and I moved to a different state than my mother it caused all the problems my difficult child has. My mom worked HARD to get me to believe that. Wiz is her first grandchild and we lived down the street from her house. She rarely went 24 hours with-o seeing him and even more rarely went into ANY kind of store with-o buying something for him. Sadly this continued until Wiz believed that my parents were better at raising him than husband and I were. He eventually got so violent and refused to be parented by us that I had to send him to live with my parents. We are in the same town but it broke my heart. It sure was a wake up call to my mother. She learned in the first year just how hard it was to parent him. do NOT let ANYONE sell you that pack of lies. There CAN be happy futures with ODD. To get to that point takes a lot of work. You must figure out the underlying cause and work to treat that cause. You also have to learn to be firm and consistent. Which is not easy or fun most of the time. One of the BEST ways to do this is to use the philosophy of "Do to Get". The child must do something to EARN what he wants. Period. This is very effective at dealing with the sense of entitlement that our children all seem to have. I think you need to consult an Occupational Therapist to have your child evaluated for sensory integration disorder. Basically that means the brain cannot process info from the senses. There are ways to help this. Almost all children who sound like yours have some sensory issues. The therapy for this can be incredibly effective. I firmly believe that my youngest would have an Asperger's diagnosis or hig functioning autistic spectrum disorder diagnosis if we had not treated his sensory problems aggressively at an early age. You can read The Out of Sync Child and the Out of Sync Child Has Fun by Kranowitz to learn more about it. For my children the treatment has been almost magically successful. I highly recommend the "Has Fun" version. It is crammed with activities to fit any and every type of Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) problem. It also has many many ways to do the activities on the cheap. I had the books before thank you was evaluated. By following what he liked and didn't like I pretty much identified his problems and knew most of what we were dealing with and had many ways to cope with it. I know you had an evaluation and teh doctor ruled out Aspergers. in my opinion the person who evaluated your son did not fully understand the problems. Your son sounds SO MUCH like my son and very very very much like a person with Asperger. I urge you to keep your mind open and continue to evaluate this. It really sounds like your son has Aspergers. If possible I recommend finding a developmental pediatrician to help you figure things out. They can be a big help. The other thing I strongly recommend is to do a Parent Report. This is a report that you write about your child. It helps keep all the info straight and easy to find. The form was created by other moms here on the site so that we could take info to te docs and schools and know what we were communicating. You can find the form on the FAQ section of this website under the FAQ segment of this site. Look for Parent Input as the title of the thread. Sending hugs, Suse [/QUOTE]
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