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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 537364" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I too was impressed how well it went. And very happy that difficult child is there he is, there couldn't be better place for him right now.</p><p></p><p>This mental coach also seems to really know his stuff. And more I think the meeting more impressed I am, how he run it. He was very skilful in keeping the tone just right and manipulating (such an ugly word, but I can't come up with better one) the situation. To me it seems he was whole time able to read especially difficult child but also others very well and changed the tone accordingly. When difficult child was starting to build up anxiety, he gave him a break by either shifting attention to himself and telling some anecdote or something or just suggesting a break. He also kept shifting between heavy stuff and easier stuff (mostly sport performance related) so that difficult child wasn't totally beaten to the ground in any point and that he stayed engaged. Very, very crafty guy this MC. I do understand perfectly why he is so highly recommended.</p><p></p><p>I'm also really impressed with difficult child's team Captain. He was very earnest, fair and clearly very concerned about the team spirit and that everyone in his team would feel comfortable. He is far from their best player, but it is easy to understand why he is the Captain. He certainly seems to have leadership and social skills. I have also always liked difficult child's current positional coach a lot. They work a lot one on one and he is very invested with difficult child's development (which of course is part of his job.)</p><p></p><p>Mattsmom: difficult child is indeed very, very lucky to be in the place he is taken so good care of. And while sport business can be very rough, those involved are still people. And like in everywhere, most are more or less decent even though there are also some really rotten apples. But still difficult child is right now in the situation, that in some ways is not common at all. He is valuable for his team also monetarily and not easy to replace. Because of his sport, position he plays, league rules, the team and a town he plays for etc. there are not ten guys who are just or almost as good as he is behind him just waiting to take his place. Finding someone who would work for the team in every way would take some work from the management. Of course doable, but extra work. difficult child is also apprentice with apprentice's pay doing journeyman's job. Even with additional costs of the supports he needs, he is cheaper for the team than his replacement would be. In some ways it is very good deal for the team. difficult child currently earns them more money than his keep and if they manage to develop him to ready to the next level in his time there, they will be compensated with the very nice amount of money. So if difficult child pans out, he is very good investment for the team. </p><p></p><p>But it is not only about wise investments. We have different sport system than USA. Our junior sports are club based, not school based. These pro teams have their own junior teams. Usually oldest juniors directly under them and younger juniors are officially under different organization (money for example is separate), but mentally they are very associated. So you may have players in your pro team, who have been in your organization from the age four or five on, and it is just very much harder not to feel responsible and think of them as just instruments. They also have older juniors who have moved out of home, sometimes far away, to be with them. If you take in even kids as young as 16 to your organizations own junior team to live away from home, you can not pretend you just have pros, who should be able to handle it all by themselves. You know you have to make sure they are safe and cared for, you know you have to account to their moms. That tunes the atmosphere to little more human also for those, who are adults and pros. And even difficult child was very young, when they took him, only 17. And of course he is still young. It is just emotionally different scenario also for the management than if you are only hiring adults to whom you have no earlier connection with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 537364, member: 14557"] I too was impressed how well it went. And very happy that difficult child is there he is, there couldn't be better place for him right now. This mental coach also seems to really know his stuff. And more I think the meeting more impressed I am, how he run it. He was very skilful in keeping the tone just right and manipulating (such an ugly word, but I can't come up with better one) the situation. To me it seems he was whole time able to read especially difficult child but also others very well and changed the tone accordingly. When difficult child was starting to build up anxiety, he gave him a break by either shifting attention to himself and telling some anecdote or something or just suggesting a break. He also kept shifting between heavy stuff and easier stuff (mostly sport performance related) so that difficult child wasn't totally beaten to the ground in any point and that he stayed engaged. Very, very crafty guy this MC. I do understand perfectly why he is so highly recommended. I'm also really impressed with difficult child's team Captain. He was very earnest, fair and clearly very concerned about the team spirit and that everyone in his team would feel comfortable. He is far from their best player, but it is easy to understand why he is the Captain. He certainly seems to have leadership and social skills. I have also always liked difficult child's current positional coach a lot. They work a lot one on one and he is very invested with difficult child's development (which of course is part of his job.) Mattsmom: difficult child is indeed very, very lucky to be in the place he is taken so good care of. And while sport business can be very rough, those involved are still people. And like in everywhere, most are more or less decent even though there are also some really rotten apples. But still difficult child is right now in the situation, that in some ways is not common at all. He is valuable for his team also monetarily and not easy to replace. Because of his sport, position he plays, league rules, the team and a town he plays for etc. there are not ten guys who are just or almost as good as he is behind him just waiting to take his place. Finding someone who would work for the team in every way would take some work from the management. Of course doable, but extra work. difficult child is also apprentice with apprentice's pay doing journeyman's job. Even with additional costs of the supports he needs, he is cheaper for the team than his replacement would be. In some ways it is very good deal for the team. difficult child currently earns them more money than his keep and if they manage to develop him to ready to the next level in his time there, they will be compensated with the very nice amount of money. So if difficult child pans out, he is very good investment for the team. But it is not only about wise investments. We have different sport system than USA. Our junior sports are club based, not school based. These pro teams have their own junior teams. Usually oldest juniors directly under them and younger juniors are officially under different organization (money for example is separate), but mentally they are very associated. So you may have players in your pro team, who have been in your organization from the age four or five on, and it is just very much harder not to feel responsible and think of them as just instruments. They also have older juniors who have moved out of home, sometimes far away, to be with them. If you take in even kids as young as 16 to your organizations own junior team to live away from home, you can not pretend you just have pros, who should be able to handle it all by themselves. You know you have to make sure they are safe and cared for, you know you have to account to their moms. That tunes the atmosphere to little more human also for those, who are adults and pros. And even difficult child was very young, when they took him, only 17. And of course he is still young. It is just emotionally different scenario also for the management than if you are only hiring adults to whom you have no earlier connection with. [/QUOTE]
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