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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 762544" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am so very sorry for the circumstances you find yourselves in caused by your son's alcoholism.</p><p></p><p>There are sober living houses where your son may be able to live, however, there may be restrictions in light of justice system involvement, I don't know. In my town, they are accessed through the Rescue Mission. For indigents (without funds and income) they are free. There is usually a program involved, in treatment and volunteer work. For those who want there is faith-based recovery. My son lived here for two stints. It was good (for me, at least.) There is also Rehab. But again, there may be restrictions presented by his charges. Participation in Rehab may be seen as positive by the Court.</p><p></p><p>I don't know what the next steps might be, but I do know this. Your son must take responsibility for the consequences of his choices and behavior. He is the one who must identify his options and find a way forward. It's enough that your lives are impacted. You don't have to solve this. You can't.</p><p></p><p>But that puts you behind the 8 ball, like all of the rest of us here. What you DO have to do is to face consequences that you did not cause. For me, this has been the hardest thing I have faced, in a difficult life. These kinds of things trigger us in ways we are not prepared for. We are geared to protect and respond to the needs of our children, even adults. We can't. This in itself is crushing.</p><p></p><p>And then there are the circumstances themselves. The shame, fear, guilt, helplessness, and overwhelm. Intolerable is too mild a word.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to you. Please stay with us. Posting and reading here can be life-changing and life-affirming.</p><p></p><p>Please know that you are not alone in this. And there is a way through it. For you and for your son. But you can only walk your walk. He must walk his own.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 762544, member: 18958"] I am so very sorry for the circumstances you find yourselves in caused by your son's alcoholism. There are sober living houses where your son may be able to live, however, there may be restrictions in light of justice system involvement, I don't know. In my town, they are accessed through the Rescue Mission. For indigents (without funds and income) they are free. There is usually a program involved, in treatment and volunteer work. For those who want there is faith-based recovery. My son lived here for two stints. It was good (for me, at least.) There is also Rehab. But again, there may be restrictions presented by his charges. Participation in Rehab may be seen as positive by the Court. I don't know what the next steps might be, but I do know this. Your son must take responsibility for the consequences of his choices and behavior. He is the one who must identify his options and find a way forward. It's enough that your lives are impacted. You don't have to solve this. You can't. But that puts you behind the 8 ball, like all of the rest of us here. What you DO have to do is to face consequences that you did not cause. For me, this has been the hardest thing I have faced, in a difficult life. These kinds of things trigger us in ways we are not prepared for. We are geared to protect and respond to the needs of our children, even adults. We can't. This in itself is crushing. And then there are the circumstances themselves. The shame, fear, guilt, helplessness, and overwhelm. Intolerable is too mild a word. Welcome to you. Please stay with us. Posting and reading here can be life-changing and life-affirming. Please know that you are not alone in this. And there is a way through it. For you and for your son. But you can only walk your walk. He must walk his own. [/QUOTE]
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