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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 610344" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Well I have gotten a bit of clarity in my head....i just got so thrown by his "this is ethical, this is my property argument and my husband kind of leaves it to me and says later well he has a point.</p><p></p><p>So I have realized that when you are dealing with these kinds of issues ethics is not my focus really. I need to do with what I (thats me not him) can live with. I know if he leaves he is making a terrible mistake that will further mess up his life. It is his choice and I cant stop it but I also am not going to do anything to help him do it. He wants that phone because it will give him internet access and a way to communicate with people who will help him leave... so indirectly I would be helping him do something stupid. He is only arguing "ethics" because he cant find another argument he think will work. </p><p></p><p>I feel a little bad because by telling him I would talk to staff about it I kind of put them in a bad position of being the bad guy. I am going to let them know I am very willing to take the heat, but I lost my clarity in the middle of the argument.</p><p></p><p>To be honest I dont really care if he hates me at the moment, I still need to do what I can live with.... because as we all know this could end badly and I will need to live with myself.</p><p></p><p>I told my husband this morning that I am not going to visit him next week if it means continuing the discussion. I can sit in the car and read while he goes in.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 610344, member: 15801"] Well I have gotten a bit of clarity in my head....i just got so thrown by his "this is ethical, this is my property argument and my husband kind of leaves it to me and says later well he has a point. So I have realized that when you are dealing with these kinds of issues ethics is not my focus really. I need to do with what I (thats me not him) can live with. I know if he leaves he is making a terrible mistake that will further mess up his life. It is his choice and I cant stop it but I also am not going to do anything to help him do it. He wants that phone because it will give him internet access and a way to communicate with people who will help him leave... so indirectly I would be helping him do something stupid. He is only arguing "ethics" because he cant find another argument he think will work. I feel a little bad because by telling him I would talk to staff about it I kind of put them in a bad position of being the bad guy. I am going to let them know I am very willing to take the heat, but I lost my clarity in the middle of the argument. To be honest I dont really care if he hates me at the moment, I still need to do what I can live with.... because as we all know this could end badly and I will need to live with myself. I told my husband this morning that I am not going to visit him next week if it means continuing the discussion. I can sit in the car and read while he goes in. TL [/QUOTE]
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