Welcome to the board. You found a safe place to share your experiences.
Deep breaths!
ODD is rarely a stand alone diagnosis. There is almost always something else that goes alone with it. Sounds like he has not been propery diagnosed (diagnosis'd). It is in your BEST interest to have this done by a neuropsychiatrist.
Pick up a copy of "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It is not a problem solver, but it is a huge help. Kinda gives you some insight into the minds of the ODD child.
There a lot of warrior moms who will be along with plenty of advice and wisdom for you. In the meantime, know that you are not alone. Prayers and hugs to you, and again, welcome!
