Welcome. I hope things get better but I do think you should explore the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) information and be prepared to have less than a
happily ever after ending. My grandson was not secure as a small
child and although he had extensive reassuring contact with us,
plus a couple of years living with us five/six days a week and
subsequently spent 5th grade with us and then 7,8,9 and now 10th
grade with us and knows he lives with us..he still has side effects from the lack of secure attachment. Intensive secure
loving attachments are sometimes not possible. Our teen is much
better than he was (no violence or anti-social behaviors), he is
apparently never going to be just a "happy camper" person. DDD
