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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 584465" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Many (not all) Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids can grow into happy adults whose disability is seriously lessened. This is NOT the case with all Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids, depending on how severely they are affected. One big mistake I think parents make is to put the main emphasis on psychiatric care when this is not a psychiatric problem, primarily. Then we get all sorts of psychiatric illness diagnosis. that are really just a manifestation of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), but psychiatrists are not the experts in Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). My son was also dxd. with bipolar and every time I think about the three years of heavy medications and the wrong direction, I get angry so I try not to. He is NOT bipolar and he has learned, with interventions that relate to HIS disability, to be a very easygoing young adult who has a few differences which get better every day. He already exceeds everyone's expectations of him and is scheduled to move out next year. He will live in a Section 8 apartment where somebody checks in on him twice a week, but basically he will be taking care of his own needs, which is very capable of. The biggest issue for him is will he be able to get a job that is competitive in the workforce so that he can afford to live on his own. Although his IQ is in the normal range, his academic skills tend to be stuck at about sixth grade (which isn't that far behind MANY kids). He is a very hard worker and the jobs he's been sent on so far have been successful. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids mature later than other kids, reaching their adult peak at 25-30.</p><p></p><p>Sonic will always be different because he is an ASDer, but he is honestly, along with Jumper, my happiest child. I chalk part of that up to his incredible "I never give up" spirit and partly I owe a world of thankfulness to t he wonderful professionals (NOT PSYCHIATRISTS...if anything THEY almost screwed him up) who helped him learn to live with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). This would include his Occupational Therapist (OT), his PT, his social skills coach, his FANTABULOUS special education teacher who agreed to take him into her class even though his IQ was normal, my partner parents who belong to my Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) parents group, and his Special Olympics coach, where he learned more about being a "normal" kid than any regular team sport coach would have done for him. As everyone knows, not all my kids have done well along the pathway, and I am NOT bragging about my fantastic (cough) parenting skills. But I AM sure I did the right thing for Sonic. I think people's biggest mistakes with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids is treating them as if they have psychiatric problems, trying to force them desperately to be independent before they are ready or even if they will need a little help, and not changing our parenting methods to f it with the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis.</p><p></p><p>Sonic banged his head on the floor, the door, anything, scratched himself, had monster tantrums and did many dangerous things when we first got him and we were NOT told he was on the spectrum...we were told he had ADHD/ODD. We didn't believe it and treated him as if he had Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Today he is a very polite, kind young adult who has nice manners and is full of empathy. Yes, Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kidds can have lots of empathy, but often they have trouble showing it. Sonic does not. He shows it. Anyhow, just my two cents about the best way to handle an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) child, of course they are all different. And, again, I'm not bragging about my parenting...I screwed up badly with PastryChef and my oldest child, Sportsfan. But hub and I obviously were on the right track with Sonic, but part of that is Sonic himself and his "never give up" spirit.</p><p></p><p>Off my s oap box <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 584465, member: 1550"] Many (not all) Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids can grow into happy adults whose disability is seriously lessened. This is NOT the case with all Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids, depending on how severely they are affected. One big mistake I think parents make is to put the main emphasis on psychiatric care when this is not a psychiatric problem, primarily. Then we get all sorts of psychiatric illness diagnosis. that are really just a manifestation of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), but psychiatrists are not the experts in Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). My son was also dxd. with bipolar and every time I think about the three years of heavy medications and the wrong direction, I get angry so I try not to. He is NOT bipolar and he has learned, with interventions that relate to HIS disability, to be a very easygoing young adult who has a few differences which get better every day. He already exceeds everyone's expectations of him and is scheduled to move out next year. He will live in a Section 8 apartment where somebody checks in on him twice a week, but basically he will be taking care of his own needs, which is very capable of. The biggest issue for him is will he be able to get a job that is competitive in the workforce so that he can afford to live on his own. Although his IQ is in the normal range, his academic skills tend to be stuck at about sixth grade (which isn't that far behind MANY kids). He is a very hard worker and the jobs he's been sent on so far have been successful. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids mature later than other kids, reaching their adult peak at 25-30. Sonic will always be different because he is an ASDer, but he is honestly, along with Jumper, my happiest child. I chalk part of that up to his incredible "I never give up" spirit and partly I owe a world of thankfulness to t he wonderful professionals (NOT PSYCHIATRISTS...if anything THEY almost screwed him up) who helped him learn to live with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). This would include his Occupational Therapist (OT), his PT, his social skills coach, his FANTABULOUS special education teacher who agreed to take him into her class even though his IQ was normal, my partner parents who belong to my Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) parents group, and his Special Olympics coach, where he learned more about being a "normal" kid than any regular team sport coach would have done for him. As everyone knows, not all my kids have done well along the pathway, and I am NOT bragging about my fantastic (cough) parenting skills. But I AM sure I did the right thing for Sonic. I think people's biggest mistakes with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids is treating them as if they have psychiatric problems, trying to force them desperately to be independent before they are ready or even if they will need a little help, and not changing our parenting methods to f it with the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis. Sonic banged his head on the floor, the door, anything, scratched himself, had monster tantrums and did many dangerous things when we first got him and we were NOT told he was on the spectrum...we were told he had ADHD/ODD. We didn't believe it and treated him as if he had Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Today he is a very polite, kind young adult who has nice manners and is full of empathy. Yes, Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kidds can have lots of empathy, but often they have trouble showing it. Sonic does not. He shows it. Anyhow, just my two cents about the best way to handle an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) child, of course they are all different. And, again, I'm not bragging about my parenting...I screwed up badly with PastryChef and my oldest child, Sportsfan. But hub and I obviously were on the right track with Sonic, but part of that is Sonic himself and his "never give up" spirit. Off my s oap box :) [/QUOTE]
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