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<blockquote data-quote="JulieMarshall" data-source="post: 415271" data-attributes="member: 11453"><p>Alright. So early this morning I went to go talk to Leo, knowing he'd be up because I don't think he's actually slept for days. I had this whole speech laid out, from what you all have told me to say. But before I could say anything, he took one look at me and started sobbing. I of course was very alarmed.</p><p></p><p>I sat down next to him and tentatively put my arm around him. Leo actually nodded when I asked if I could talk to him. He made eye contact with me for the first time in weeks.</p><p></p><p>Finally, FINALLY, I was able to talk to him without him ignoring me or leaving.</p><p></p><p>He kept repeating over and over that it was his fault, and over a cup of coffee I got it out of him.</p><p></p><p>Evidently Leo's friend had mentioned that he was thinking about killing himself the day before he actually did, and Leo didn't really think anything of it so he did nothing. He said that the guilt's eating him alive.</p><p></p><p>Leo's sleeve ran up as he ran his hand through his hair a few times, something he does when he's extremely upset, and I saw rows and rows of cuts. It was awful. Leo's been cutting himself. I did think it was strange that Leo's been wearing long sleeves the past couple of days, when it's been so nice out, but it didn't even cross my mind that he might be hurting himself. This is worrisome because the friend killed himself that way, by slitting his wrists.</p><p></p><p>I tried to ask him about those, though, and he just shut down again.</p><p></p><p>So I decided that I needed to take him to the ER. I told him that he could either go with me peacefully or I'd call 911 and have the police and an ambulance take him.</p><p></p><p>Leo didn't want to cooperate, or maybe he just didn't believe me, and so I mustered up my courage and called.</p><p></p><p>I made the phone call on my daughter's cell phone, locked in my bathroom, because when I stared dialing Leo grabbed my own phone and smashed it.He just started screaming at me through the door to stop and that he hated me. That was...hard.</p><p></p><p>Leo turned into this raging monster, screaming and throwing things. He scared me, and my daughters, who despite me telling them to stay in their rooms heard and saw almost everything (how do I talk to them about this?), are completely terrified.</p><p></p><p>He barricaded himself in his room and the paramedics had to break open the door to get at him. Leo was like a wild animal. It was just awful to see him being dragged out the door and into the ambulance.</p><p></p><p>I saw it in his eyes, the look of pure hatred. It was directed at me. That is what I was dreading.</p><p></p><p>They did a physical and mental evaluation, and found cuts all over his body and discovered that he's malnourished. It makes me feel like a horrible mother.</p><p></p><p>They had to restrain him. I don't know why he's putting up such a fight.</p><p></p><p>They're keeping him overnight and are doing another evaluation at the psychiatric ward in the morning.</p><p></p><p>I'm just worried that I'm doing the wrong thing with him and if I should have acted much sooner. Did I do the right thing?</p><p></p><p>How much time should I ask his school to give us? Leo's in mostly AP classes so it's going to be extremely difficult for him to make all that work up. But obviously his health and his life are infinitely more important than his schoolwork.</p><p></p><p>My best friend is at home with my other kids, but she has work in the morning and can't take off (my boss is wonderful and gave me as much time as I need). They have a day off tomorrow and I can't leave them home alone all day. What should I do about that?</p><p></p><p>Sorry that was so long. I just needed to get it all out. And I want to thank you guys so, so much. <strong>You could have saved my son's life. </strong>I cannot express my gratitude.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JulieMarshall, post: 415271, member: 11453"] Alright. So early this morning I went to go talk to Leo, knowing he'd be up because I don't think he's actually slept for days. I had this whole speech laid out, from what you all have told me to say. But before I could say anything, he took one look at me and started sobbing. I of course was very alarmed. I sat down next to him and tentatively put my arm around him. Leo actually nodded when I asked if I could talk to him. He made eye contact with me for the first time in weeks. Finally, FINALLY, I was able to talk to him without him ignoring me or leaving. He kept repeating over and over that it was his fault, and over a cup of coffee I got it out of him. Evidently Leo's friend had mentioned that he was thinking about killing himself the day before he actually did, and Leo didn't really think anything of it so he did nothing. He said that the guilt's eating him alive. Leo's sleeve ran up as he ran his hand through his hair a few times, something he does when he's extremely upset, and I saw rows and rows of cuts. It was awful. Leo's been cutting himself. I did think it was strange that Leo's been wearing long sleeves the past couple of days, when it's been so nice out, but it didn't even cross my mind that he might be hurting himself. This is worrisome because the friend killed himself that way, by slitting his wrists. I tried to ask him about those, though, and he just shut down again. So I decided that I needed to take him to the ER. I told him that he could either go with me peacefully or I'd call 911 and have the police and an ambulance take him. Leo didn't want to cooperate, or maybe he just didn't believe me, and so I mustered up my courage and called. I made the phone call on my daughter's cell phone, locked in my bathroom, because when I stared dialing Leo grabbed my own phone and smashed it.He just started screaming at me through the door to stop and that he hated me. That was...hard. Leo turned into this raging monster, screaming and throwing things. He scared me, and my daughters, who despite me telling them to stay in their rooms heard and saw almost everything (how do I talk to them about this?), are completely terrified. He barricaded himself in his room and the paramedics had to break open the door to get at him. Leo was like a wild animal. It was just awful to see him being dragged out the door and into the ambulance. I saw it in his eyes, the look of pure hatred. It was directed at me. That is what I was dreading. They did a physical and mental evaluation, and found cuts all over his body and discovered that he's malnourished. It makes me feel like a horrible mother. They had to restrain him. I don't know why he's putting up such a fight. They're keeping him overnight and are doing another evaluation at the psychiatric ward in the morning. I'm just worried that I'm doing the wrong thing with him and if I should have acted much sooner. Did I do the right thing? How much time should I ask his school to give us? Leo's in mostly AP classes so it's going to be extremely difficult for him to make all that work up. But obviously his health and his life are infinitely more important than his schoolwork. My best friend is at home with my other kids, but she has work in the morning and can't take off (my boss is wonderful and gave me as much time as I need). They have a day off tomorrow and I can't leave them home alone all day. What should I do about that? Sorry that was so long. I just needed to get it all out. And I want to thank you guys so, so much. [B]You could have saved my son's life. [/B]I cannot express my gratitude. [/QUOTE]
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