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<blockquote data-quote="overwhelmed..." data-source="post: 205834" data-attributes="member: 6184"><p>Her behavior, from what I have been told by various family members, was pretty bad. She would throw monster temper tantrums and beat up the little boys at school. They would run from her. I also understand that her mother, since she knew she was dying, did not want her daughter to have any bad memories of her so she was never punished or disciplined by her mother. If she wanted something from the store, her mother would buy, not two, but three of them. </p><p> </p><p>Since I've met this family there has been a huge change in her. Her Father and I have been very strict and enforcing rules as best we can. It was really tough at first. She used to have major outbursts and temper tantrums. I remember about a year and a half ago we were going to go visit my SO's sister about an hour away from us. We had just gotten daughter a Playstation 2, and rather than being excited about having it and being able to play it when she got home, she screamed and moaned (literally) the entire ride down there because we didn't take it with us to set up and play at SO's sister's home.</p><p> </p><p>When she used to get mad at her dad, she would always say that she wished he was dead instead of her mother (pretty normal, I think). Then she would go into great graphic detail of how she would kill him... That's kinda how I knew she loved me too, when she would get angry at me she began telling me how she would kill me too. I think she's only comfortable enough with the ones she loves to tell them that! Twisted, I know, but if you knew her it would make sense. (We know she doesn't really mean it, she just gets WAY out of control).</p><p> </p><p>The medication has helped a lot. SHe hasn't had as severe of a meltdown for about a year now. That's great. She does meltdown of course, but now she is just extremely defiant, mouthy, lippy, has an attitude about EVERYTHING, no impulse control, she is all about self-gratification. </p><p> </p><p>We immediately set that rule regarding school after she hit her grandmother and tried to bully her into signing the paper. Homework is not done unless her Father or I have reviewed it. And we've had to have the teachers sign and fill out her agenda so there is no confusion as to what her homework really is. The school posts the homework assignments on the internet and before the teachers began signing her agenda, amazingly she was never told that she had the homework that was posted on the website. She is constantly trying to find new ways to get over on us and get away with whatever she can. It's a game for her and she's very open about it. She has told me, when I have asked why she behaves the way that she does, that she is just trying to improve her "skills." (Lying, coniving, cheating, deception....) </p><p> </p><p>Oh, it's enough to make you want to pull your hair out, because she isn't always this vile. She is sooo smart, I mean scary smart, and she can be very sweet and tender and funny and charming and all of those wonderful things that you wish for someone, unless of course, she doesn't get what she wants, then the monster pops out...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="overwhelmed..., post: 205834, member: 6184"] Her behavior, from what I have been told by various family members, was pretty bad. She would throw monster temper tantrums and beat up the little boys at school. They would run from her. I also understand that her mother, since she knew she was dying, did not want her daughter to have any bad memories of her so she was never punished or disciplined by her mother. If she wanted something from the store, her mother would buy, not two, but three of them. Since I've met this family there has been a huge change in her. Her Father and I have been very strict and enforcing rules as best we can. It was really tough at first. She used to have major outbursts and temper tantrums. I remember about a year and a half ago we were going to go visit my SO's sister about an hour away from us. We had just gotten daughter a Playstation 2, and rather than being excited about having it and being able to play it when she got home, she screamed and moaned (literally) the entire ride down there because we didn't take it with us to set up and play at SO's sister's home. When she used to get mad at her dad, she would always say that she wished he was dead instead of her mother (pretty normal, I think). Then she would go into great graphic detail of how she would kill him... That's kinda how I knew she loved me too, when she would get angry at me she began telling me how she would kill me too. I think she's only comfortable enough with the ones she loves to tell them that! Twisted, I know, but if you knew her it would make sense. (We know she doesn't really mean it, she just gets WAY out of control). The medication has helped a lot. SHe hasn't had as severe of a meltdown for about a year now. That's great. She does meltdown of course, but now she is just extremely defiant, mouthy, lippy, has an attitude about EVERYTHING, no impulse control, she is all about self-gratification. We immediately set that rule regarding school after she hit her grandmother and tried to bully her into signing the paper. Homework is not done unless her Father or I have reviewed it. And we've had to have the teachers sign and fill out her agenda so there is no confusion as to what her homework really is. The school posts the homework assignments on the internet and before the teachers began signing her agenda, amazingly she was never told that she had the homework that was posted on the website. She is constantly trying to find new ways to get over on us and get away with whatever she can. It's a game for her and she's very open about it. She has told me, when I have asked why she behaves the way that she does, that she is just trying to improve her "skills." (Lying, coniving, cheating, deception....) Oh, it's enough to make you want to pull your hair out, because she isn't always this vile. She is sooo smart, I mean scary smart, and she can be very sweet and tender and funny and charming and all of those wonderful things that you wish for someone, unless of course, she doesn't get what she wants, then the monster pops out... [/QUOTE]
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