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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 661442" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Welcome,</p><p>I am so sorry for the pain you are experiencing. It is not an easy journey detaching from our D C's. It takes time, strength and courage. I know right now you think you don't have it in you but I'm telling you that you do. I and many others here have felt that deep darkness that you are in now. You are not alone.</p><p>You have taken an important step and you have reached out. If you have not done so already I would recommend that you get some individual counseling. While this site is a God send and there is great support here there is really no replacing having one on one with a professional who can help you to learn how to set healthy boundaries with your D C.</p><p>There is an article at the top of Parent Emeritus about detachment, I suggest you read it. Print it out and keep a copy with you.</p><p>The fact that she's TG complicates things for her, I can't even begin to imagine all the emotions that she is going through. I agree, she should still be in therapy. She has made a choice to hang with other TG people and I suppose she finds some comfort in that and it's too bad they do not appear to be a good group of people. Don't get me wrong, I do not excuse her making claims of abuse but I would not be surprised if some of these people she's hanging with have fed into that line of thinking. I do hope someday she realizes how much you love her. There are so many people who are TG or Gay and their families shun them. That may be the case with some of the people she's hanging with.</p><p>Again, I think a therapist can really help you with all of this.</p><p>As for her making claims of abuse, you know the truth and that is what you have to hold onto. My son did the same thing, it's a common thing our D C's do.</p><p>Try and focus on the child you still have at home. Take some time just for the two of you, go to a movie or the zoo. Also, take time to do something just for you. It's so easy to become consumed with our D C's that we forget to take care of ourselves.</p><p>There was a time for me that I really thought I would suffocate from the darkness but I didn't and you won't either. You WILL get through this.</p><p>Keep posting. We are here for you.</p><p>((HUGS)) to you......................</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 661442, member: 18516"] Welcome, I am so sorry for the pain you are experiencing. It is not an easy journey detaching from our D C's. It takes time, strength and courage. I know right now you think you don't have it in you but I'm telling you that you do. I and many others here have felt that deep darkness that you are in now. You are not alone. You have taken an important step and you have reached out. If you have not done so already I would recommend that you get some individual counseling. While this site is a God send and there is great support here there is really no replacing having one on one with a professional who can help you to learn how to set healthy boundaries with your D C. There is an article at the top of Parent Emeritus about detachment, I suggest you read it. Print it out and keep a copy with you. The fact that she's TG complicates things for her, I can't even begin to imagine all the emotions that she is going through. I agree, she should still be in therapy. She has made a choice to hang with other TG people and I suppose she finds some comfort in that and it's too bad they do not appear to be a good group of people. Don't get me wrong, I do not excuse her making claims of abuse but I would not be surprised if some of these people she's hanging with have fed into that line of thinking. I do hope someday she realizes how much you love her. There are so many people who are TG or Gay and their families shun them. That may be the case with some of the people she's hanging with. Again, I think a therapist can really help you with all of this. As for her making claims of abuse, you know the truth and that is what you have to hold onto. My son did the same thing, it's a common thing our D C's do. Try and focus on the child you still have at home. Take some time just for the two of you, go to a movie or the zoo. Also, take time to do something just for you. It's so easy to become consumed with our D C's that we forget to take care of ourselves. There was a time for me that I really thought I would suffocate from the darkness but I didn't and you won't either. You WILL get through this. Keep posting. We are here for you. ((HUGS)) to you...................... [/QUOTE]
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