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<blockquote data-quote="HowMuchLonger" data-source="post: 411973" data-attributes="member: 11280"><p>I echo Jena's sentiments...I know the system isn't and probably can't be perfect due to so many grey areas...but damn it seems that us parents that ARE trying are the ones getting the shaft with CPS/CAS(canada). I too have had them called on me by a substitute principal at difficult child 2/difficult child 3's school. She didn't know us or our family from a hole in the ground and made grand assumptions. When the regular principal returned she of course had to be professional and back her colleague but I could tell by the look in her eyes that she was devastated and would never in the same situation have made that call.</p><p></p><p>carolina, I too panicked....I threw up for 3 days straight, couldn't eat even 2 weeks after they'd done their investigation and pretty much locked myself in the bathroom and cried in a bubble bath everynight for weeks. I felt that compared to a whooole lot of people I was probably on the "better" end of the parenting spectrum. I live in a fairly bad area - I've SEEN the families that clearly need either a hand or a very in depth investigation and then those that definitely need their children removed...and yet, here I was, being investigated. It's not easy...and even now it's been almost 2 years and I still get a cold shiver down my spine remembering how low I felt back then. I think that too contributed to my lowered confidence in my ability to parent difficult child 3...I was unsure of everything and trying to always do the RIGHT thing and never quite sure what the RIGHT thing was.</p><p></p><p>I have no advice for you, jsut want you to know you are NOT alone, and NOT a bad parent. I don't see people taking the time to sign up for forums, asking questions and really baring their soles as being neglectful or bad parents. Good luck with everything, I hope the call to CPS will perhaps just give you another outlet that might help you? To be honest, they were NO help to me...the home worker came in generally when the kids were in a good state, asked how their day went and gave them candy...yeah ok..great therapy!</p><p></p><p>Chin up...keep fighting!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HowMuchLonger, post: 411973, member: 11280"] I echo Jena's sentiments...I know the system isn't and probably can't be perfect due to so many grey areas...but damn it seems that us parents that ARE trying are the ones getting the shaft with CPS/CAS(canada). I too have had them called on me by a substitute principal at difficult child 2/difficult child 3's school. She didn't know us or our family from a hole in the ground and made grand assumptions. When the regular principal returned she of course had to be professional and back her colleague but I could tell by the look in her eyes that she was devastated and would never in the same situation have made that call. carolina, I too panicked....I threw up for 3 days straight, couldn't eat even 2 weeks after they'd done their investigation and pretty much locked myself in the bathroom and cried in a bubble bath everynight for weeks. I felt that compared to a whooole lot of people I was probably on the "better" end of the parenting spectrum. I live in a fairly bad area - I've SEEN the families that clearly need either a hand or a very in depth investigation and then those that definitely need their children removed...and yet, here I was, being investigated. It's not easy...and even now it's been almost 2 years and I still get a cold shiver down my spine remembering how low I felt back then. I think that too contributed to my lowered confidence in my ability to parent difficult child 3...I was unsure of everything and trying to always do the RIGHT thing and never quite sure what the RIGHT thing was. I have no advice for you, jsut want you to know you are NOT alone, and NOT a bad parent. I don't see people taking the time to sign up for forums, asking questions and really baring their soles as being neglectful or bad parents. Good luck with everything, I hope the call to CPS will perhaps just give you another outlet that might help you? To be honest, they were NO help to me...the home worker came in generally when the kids were in a good state, asked how their day went and gave them candy...yeah ok..great therapy! Chin up...keep fighting! [/QUOTE]
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