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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 171892"><p>Marg,</p><p></p><p>When my son is of the age of majority (legally an adult), I will probably revisit the idea of girlfriend/boyfriend sleep overs. But, I'm talking about 15 and 16 year old kids whose parents allow them to sleep over, not only in the same room, but in the same bed. I don't find their argument of 'they're going to do it anyway' to be valid. That argument really says - why bother parenting if kids are just going to do what they want. We have a responsibility to protect our kids and sometimes that means from themselves.</p><p></p><p>My son asked me this week if his girlfriend could stay the night. I told him that I am not at all comfortable with it. He said they don't 'do anything', but asked if I would feel better if he bought condoms. I said, 'Yes. Well, no." LOL His girlfriend wants to wait to have sex until she's married. I talked to my son about temptation and if something happens, how would he feel if she regrets it later or feels bad about herself? It's so much more than just having sex and worrying about STD's and pregnancy.</p><p></p><p>I know of many parents who just don't want to be 'the bad guy'. They don't want to tell their kids 'no', or they don't want the argument that will ensue. I've had parents tell their kids they can do something at my house knowing that I would say no so that they wouldn't have to be the bad guy. It's incredibly frustrating.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 171892"] Marg, When my son is of the age of majority (legally an adult), I will probably revisit the idea of girlfriend/boyfriend sleep overs. But, I'm talking about 15 and 16 year old kids whose parents allow them to sleep over, not only in the same room, but in the same bed. I don't find their argument of 'they're going to do it anyway' to be valid. That argument really says - why bother parenting if kids are just going to do what they want. We have a responsibility to protect our kids and sometimes that means from themselves. My son asked me this week if his girlfriend could stay the night. I told him that I am not at all comfortable with it. He said they don't 'do anything', but asked if I would feel better if he bought condoms. I said, 'Yes. Well, no." LOL His girlfriend wants to wait to have sex until she's married. I talked to my son about temptation and if something happens, how would he feel if she regrets it later or feels bad about herself? It's so much more than just having sex and worrying about STD's and pregnancy. I know of many parents who just don't want to be 'the bad guy'. They don't want to tell their kids 'no', or they don't want the argument that will ensue. I've had parents tell their kids they can do something at my house knowing that I would say no so that they wouldn't have to be the bad guy. It's incredibly frustrating. [/QUOTE]
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