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Parents turned on me after I finally kicked out 19yo son
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 615742" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Excellent advice from Cedar. This Christmas will be difficult because they have turned you away. Believe me, I know. Perhaps in time they will come to understand that they have been played by him just as you were. My parents <em>never</em> stopped blaming my parenting on my kids' triangulation skills. Other grandparents do. It's a terrible time of year to indulge in healthy self-reflection because everyone has unrealistic expectations of Christmas. Your son and your parents are playing that out before your eyes at this very moment.</p><p></p><p>My advice is that you don't think too hard on it right now. The longest journey starts with a single step. It's best to not expect to get there in a day. You'll be less disappointed if you take it one step at a time.</p><p></p><p>FWIW, husband and I are 2,800 miles from any of our family by choice, I'm cooking a giant turkey dinner for the two of us tonight, and I couldn't care less about the drama going on at the other edge of the country. I'm not disappointed, I'm not full of anticipation or dread, so I <em>win!</em> on the other hand I had at least 10 lousy Christmases before I got here. There will be other lousy times, too, but trouble waits. I face it when it comes.</p><p></p><p>Do something nice for yourself, and try to not drop-kick the manger. But if you do, Miss Star will adopt the donkey! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 615742, member: 99"] Excellent advice from Cedar. This Christmas will be difficult because they have turned you away. Believe me, I know. Perhaps in time they will come to understand that they have been played by him just as you were. My parents [I]never[/I] stopped blaming my parenting on my kids' triangulation skills. Other grandparents do. It's a terrible time of year to indulge in healthy self-reflection because everyone has unrealistic expectations of Christmas. Your son and your parents are playing that out before your eyes at this very moment. My advice is that you don't think too hard on it right now. The longest journey starts with a single step. It's best to not expect to get there in a day. You'll be less disappointed if you take it one step at a time. FWIW, husband and I are 2,800 miles from any of our family by choice, I'm cooking a giant turkey dinner for the two of us tonight, and I couldn't care less about the drama going on at the other edge of the country. I'm not disappointed, I'm not full of anticipation or dread, so I [I]win![/I] on the other hand I had at least 10 lousy Christmases before I got here. There will be other lousy times, too, but trouble waits. I face it when it comes. Do something nice for yourself, and try to not drop-kick the manger. But if you do, Miss Star will adopt the donkey! ;) [/QUOTE]
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