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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 264628" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Good evening! I left a voice mail for the parole officer this afternooon. I asked if I could get a copy of the agreement prior to our meeting because I was concerned about being being expected to commit to something unexpected upon difficult child's release that I might not be able to provide. I said that this might not be the case, but I didn't know since I have not seen the agreement. Also, if he wanted to move our meeting up so that we wouldn't be left discussing this at the 11th hour, that would be fine with me.</p><p></p><p>I think they don't consider this a reunification issue- they would if difficult child was in dss but since he's incarcerated, they are supposed to do a transition plan- according to what I read online. I just don't know who is supposed to do that plan and what role I play in it. Also, by the way the parole officer talked, they send difficult child home first then provide people to check on him, give us rules, and talk to him and this is the transition period. Their only outlook on "family needs" or mental health needs is if things like more behavior modification is needed, if the family needs to be ordered in substance abuse treatment, etc. This is crime prevention money so their views are a lot different.</p><p></p><p>Since I read that the "mentor" will be setting house rules and I was told that there will be a "worker" who shows up unexpectedly to check on difficult child and what's going on at home and "mental health" will be required (which I assume means an in home therapist- and they might be planning that mst guy that I can't stand), it just appears to be more of the same. I'm going to ask and see what happens if I say "when difficult child gets himself out of legal trouble, he can come back home". After all, it wasn't me that broke the law and if they are going to blame me every time difficult child does something wrong, then why send him home? But, I don't want difficult child sent out of the area where I can't see him or work on family therapy with him. I do want to get this stuff worked out and have him come back home- I just think it needs to be worked out beforehand- at least some- and if the legal authorites can't trust me to raise him or want to blame me for all his problems and can't back me up to difficult child, then it's a set up to send him home because it will be the same as before and it's difficult child's life getting ruined.</p><p></p><p>Oh, when I called medicaid to tell them he was no longer in psychiatric hospital and committed to state, instead of changing his classification to remove him from an independent recipient, they dropped his medicaid altogether. They told me that soince he's committed to the state Department of Juvenile Justice, the state covers medical expenses. The state Department of Juvenile Justice had sent me a form to fill out for medical insurance information, so I don't think the state is expecting to cover medical costs. I read something about Virginia's studies on mental health and Department of Juvenile Justice stuff. It said one of the two biggest things needed was coordination between agencies. Boy, they aren't kidding.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 264628, member: 3699"] Good evening! I left a voice mail for the parole officer this afternooon. I asked if I could get a copy of the agreement prior to our meeting because I was concerned about being being expected to commit to something unexpected upon difficult child's release that I might not be able to provide. I said that this might not be the case, but I didn't know since I have not seen the agreement. Also, if he wanted to move our meeting up so that we wouldn't be left discussing this at the 11th hour, that would be fine with me. I think they don't consider this a reunification issue- they would if difficult child was in dss but since he's incarcerated, they are supposed to do a transition plan- according to what I read online. I just don't know who is supposed to do that plan and what role I play in it. Also, by the way the parole officer talked, they send difficult child home first then provide people to check on him, give us rules, and talk to him and this is the transition period. Their only outlook on "family needs" or mental health needs is if things like more behavior modification is needed, if the family needs to be ordered in substance abuse treatment, etc. This is crime prevention money so their views are a lot different. Since I read that the "mentor" will be setting house rules and I was told that there will be a "worker" who shows up unexpectedly to check on difficult child and what's going on at home and "mental health" will be required (which I assume means an in home therapist- and they might be planning that mst guy that I can't stand), it just appears to be more of the same. I'm going to ask and see what happens if I say "when difficult child gets himself out of legal trouble, he can come back home". After all, it wasn't me that broke the law and if they are going to blame me every time difficult child does something wrong, then why send him home? But, I don't want difficult child sent out of the area where I can't see him or work on family therapy with him. I do want to get this stuff worked out and have him come back home- I just think it needs to be worked out beforehand- at least some- and if the legal authorites can't trust me to raise him or want to blame me for all his problems and can't back me up to difficult child, then it's a set up to send him home because it will be the same as before and it's difficult child's life getting ruined. Oh, when I called medicaid to tell them he was no longer in psychiatric hospital and committed to state, instead of changing his classification to remove him from an independent recipient, they dropped his medicaid altogether. They told me that soince he's committed to the state Department of Juvenile Justice, the state covers medical expenses. The state Department of Juvenile Justice had sent me a form to fill out for medical insurance information, so I don't think the state is expecting to cover medical costs. I read something about Virginia's studies on mental health and Department of Juvenile Justice stuff. It said one of the two biggest things needed was coordination between agencies. Boy, they aren't kidding. [/QUOTE]
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