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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 265035" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>As a CD family member I've got to say again, stop repeating the past events in your head. You need to do a recap with-o opinions. It is imperative that you not knock the GAL or the PO or anyone who messed with your sons chances for help...or yours. It is, for all intents and purposes, water over the dam!</p><p></p><p>Klmno's son born: ________, normal ht/wt/ condition excellent.</p><p>Early childhood: Son reached all milestones on target and was under the care of a well qualified Pediatrician.</p><p>Onset of concerns: At the age of 10, difficult child showed signs of anxiety ?? and was taken to Pediatrician (or whoever) and was put on XX medication or was judged to be within the realm of normal or whatever. Short and sweet.</p><p>Problem #1: difficult child began to display anger ??? had difficulty in school? reacted to divorce?? chose bad friends?? whatever. I took him to (describe expert) who said blah blah and that advice was followed.</p><p>Problem #2 etc.</p><p>As things got worse (with no personal sermonizing) describe simply. difficult child's</p><p>anger grew even with supports in place. Department of Juvenile Justice became involved. Although both difficult child and I had a therapist?? the Department of Juvenile Justice representative expressed concern that</p><p>difficult child's treatment at home was not appropriate and advised C,D,G. It was a</p><p>difficult time. On x/we/xxxx I began to seek placement for difficult child in a suitable</p><p>Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I contacted x, Y, Z (give months and dates if available) and sought</p><p>information on funding. The GAL and the Court ?? seemed to also believe</p><p>that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement would be best. </p><p></p><p>I could go on and on making up stuff, Klmno, but take the true facts and</p><p>keep them bare. Put dates, contacts, no negative stuff. Go thru the current placement. Wrap it up with something like "I am pleased that difficult child appears to be doing well at this time. All of us, I assume, agree that he should have regular care by a qualified psychiatrist during his incarceration. It does not seem viable to express preferences for future placement once he has completed his time at xx. It is my sincere hope that we can work together as we focus on his care now and in the future. The ultimate goal for me as his parent is to see difficult child capable of living a life of happiness and safety with a future as a productive citizen.</p><p></p><p>Something like that. Nothing specific about when or if you will support him coming home at such a such time. Just a recap followed up by a generic (but heartfelt) statement of a future goal of his health and happiness. You will have to write and rework it a few times but I really think that is the best way to show you are on the team with a common goal but not ready to guess what steps are necessary in the future. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 265035, member: 35"] As a CD family member I've got to say again, stop repeating the past events in your head. You need to do a recap with-o opinions. It is imperative that you not knock the GAL or the PO or anyone who messed with your sons chances for help...or yours. It is, for all intents and purposes, water over the dam! Klmno's son born: ________, normal ht/wt/ condition excellent. Early childhood: Son reached all milestones on target and was under the care of a well qualified Pediatrician. Onset of concerns: At the age of 10, difficult child showed signs of anxiety ?? and was taken to Pediatrician (or whoever) and was put on XX medication or was judged to be within the realm of normal or whatever. Short and sweet. Problem #1: difficult child began to display anger ??? had difficulty in school? reacted to divorce?? chose bad friends?? whatever. I took him to (describe expert) who said blah blah and that advice was followed. Problem #2 etc. As things got worse (with no personal sermonizing) describe simply. difficult child's anger grew even with supports in place. Department of Juvenile Justice became involved. Although both difficult child and I had a therapist?? the Department of Juvenile Justice representative expressed concern that difficult child's treatment at home was not appropriate and advised C,D,G. It was a difficult time. On x/we/xxxx I began to seek placement for difficult child in a suitable Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I contacted x, Y, Z (give months and dates if available) and sought information on funding. The GAL and the Court ?? seemed to also believe that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement would be best. I could go on and on making up stuff, Klmno, but take the true facts and keep them bare. Put dates, contacts, no negative stuff. Go thru the current placement. Wrap it up with something like "I am pleased that difficult child appears to be doing well at this time. All of us, I assume, agree that he should have regular care by a qualified psychiatrist during his incarceration. It does not seem viable to express preferences for future placement once he has completed his time at xx. It is my sincere hope that we can work together as we focus on his care now and in the future. The ultimate goal for me as his parent is to see difficult child capable of living a life of happiness and safety with a future as a productive citizen. Something like that. Nothing specific about when or if you will support him coming home at such a such time. Just a recap followed up by a generic (but heartfelt) statement of a future goal of his health and happiness. You will have to write and rework it a few times but I really think that is the best way to show you are on the team with a common goal but not ready to guess what steps are necessary in the future. DDD [/QUOTE]
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