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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 159929" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>JO, </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>The flash backs to that moment are most certainly PTSD. If you have a mind to work with a therapist seek out one that does work in EMDR. It makes quick work of very traumatic events. </p><p> </p><p>My other thought from voice of experience is to ask that your daughter's attacker be presented by VIDEO access only. This would ensure she not see him. Curosities she may have about him ie: wonder what he looks like now, is he sad, does he regret it will be better solved if he's not even in the same room as her. </p><p> </p><p>In a lot of DV cases the victim thinks they want a confrontation with the attacker. She's dreamed about this day for over 3 years. And for some - they are able to ignore their attacker, say their peace and move on. For MOST they have envisioned that they will tell this person something, maybe cry, maybe scream - and hope to see a remorseful person begging for forgiveness. More than not what they get is the same man, with the same ideals sitting feet away from their victims, smug, unresponsive, yawning as if to say come on get this over with - I need to get out of here, borrrrrring, and sometimes they smirk, smile, wink or even flirt and blow kisses to their victims. I can't tell you what that does to women who spent the last X years of their lives waiting to have their day in court - only to be further tramatized. </p><p> </p><p>I believe all sexual predators are mentally ill. I believe there is little chance for rehabilitation. I don't believe this is a choice situation - it's a compulsion. Some know it is wrong, but are habitual offenders. I believe if most could do it again and thought they would not get caught they would do it. Why subject your daughter to the chance of that happening? </p><p> </p><p>When they do go to court tell them she has the right to say her peace - but HE HAS NO RIGHT TO EVEN SIT 50' FROM HER AND EVEN LOOK AT HER. NONE AT ALL. </p><p> </p><p>Then ask the prosecutor to put him in a room and if she wants to say something to him - do it via sattelite. That gives your daugter a chance to say her peace in a safe environment. And it can prevent the attacker from being attacked. I can tell you from experience that if my attacker ever comes near me he'll have once chance to walk away. ONE. Which is more than I got. I keep tabs on him and it does give me a sense of security in a way. </p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry she /you/family has to go through this at all. I'm not saying this from thinking - I'm telling you this from experience. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 159929, member: 4964"] JO, The flash backs to that moment are most certainly PTSD. If you have a mind to work with a therapist seek out one that does work in EMDR. It makes quick work of very traumatic events. My other thought from voice of experience is to ask that your daughter's attacker be presented by VIDEO access only. This would ensure she not see him. Curosities she may have about him ie: wonder what he looks like now, is he sad, does he regret it will be better solved if he's not even in the same room as her. In a lot of DV cases the victim thinks they want a confrontation with the attacker. She's dreamed about this day for over 3 years. And for some - they are able to ignore their attacker, say their peace and move on. For MOST they have envisioned that they will tell this person something, maybe cry, maybe scream - and hope to see a remorseful person begging for forgiveness. More than not what they get is the same man, with the same ideals sitting feet away from their victims, smug, unresponsive, yawning as if to say come on get this over with - I need to get out of here, borrrrrring, and sometimes they smirk, smile, wink or even flirt and blow kisses to their victims. I can't tell you what that does to women who spent the last X years of their lives waiting to have their day in court - only to be further tramatized. I believe all sexual predators are mentally ill. I believe there is little chance for rehabilitation. I don't believe this is a choice situation - it's a compulsion. Some know it is wrong, but are habitual offenders. I believe if most could do it again and thought they would not get caught they would do it. Why subject your daughter to the chance of that happening? When they do go to court tell them she has the right to say her peace - but HE HAS NO RIGHT TO EVEN SIT 50' FROM HER AND EVEN LOOK AT HER. NONE AT ALL. Then ask the prosecutor to put him in a room and if she wants to say something to him - do it via sattelite. That gives your daugter a chance to say her peace in a safe environment. And it can prevent the attacker from being attacked. I can tell you from experience that if my attacker ever comes near me he'll have once chance to walk away. ONE. Which is more than I got. I keep tabs on him and it does give me a sense of security in a way. I'm sorry she /you/family has to go through this at all. I'm not saying this from thinking - I'm telling you this from experience. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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