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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 159945" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><em>JO, </em></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><em>What could it hurt to actually call the daughter and ask him to be there? </em></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><em>I would also ask the prosecutor to offer DV counseling leaving it "open end" - so that she may go and take advantage of free counseling if not now, then in the future or even in her 30's or 40's. Can't hurt to ask for it. </em></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><em>I hope you also have a peace bond in place. They are around 40ish dollars - sometimes they will offset the cost through a dv shelter, and people will say "But it's just a piece of paper." and, it is. However if in the future he comes near her or within a specified amount of space, that "just a piece of paper" is a tell-tale sign to police that there has already been significant amounts of documented trouble enough to get a peace bond. It's like a written fer sure to a cop that there has been a history of dv. Instead of the family standing around trying to make this cop understand the drama. </em></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><em>I have a life-time peace bond on my x. I am working on my CWP to carry a firearm. I have an alarm in my house, I have an alarm to wear around my neck with a panic button. I keep tabs on him, I have 2 huge guardian dogs, a fenced in yard, I live with a biker who's a great shot, and I've had therapy for 10 years, and specialized EMDR therapy for 3 months - and I wanted VERY badly for him to "feel remorse" for the things that he did - and he does not. The only time in the last 12 years I've heard a thing from him he got our phone number and left me a message in a stern tone - saying "It's all water under the bridge to me - you need to grow up." That's as close to an apology as I'll get and it put me BACK in therapy for another 2 years. I haven't spoken to him in 12 years - I have no intention of even allowing him to SEE me ever. And like I said if he comes near me HE gets 1 chance to leave by his own volition. One. </em></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><em>And I say this to you at 43 - with a good 12 years of therapy under my belt and being very well read. I know what she's going through. Eventually in time - she'll realize that confrontation is NOT the best revenge. When you get to a point in your life that you forget someone - they cease to exist in your mind, when they cease to exist - you have more room to fill in your head with good and positive things. </em></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><em>All my hugs to you and yours Jo. </em></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><em>Star</em></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 159945, member: 4964"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][I]JO, [/I][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][I]What could it hurt to actually call the daughter and ask him to be there? [/I][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][I]I would also ask the prosecutor to offer DV counseling leaving it "open end" - so that she may go and take advantage of free counseling if not now, then in the future or even in her 30's or 40's. Can't hurt to ask for it. [/I][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][I]I hope you also have a peace bond in place. They are around 40ish dollars - sometimes they will offset the cost through a dv shelter, and people will say "But it's just a piece of paper." and, it is. However if in the future he comes near her or within a specified amount of space, that "just a piece of paper" is a tell-tale sign to police that there has already been significant amounts of documented trouble enough to get a peace bond. It's like a written fer sure to a cop that there has been a history of dv. Instead of the family standing around trying to make this cop understand the drama. [/I][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][I]I have a life-time peace bond on my x. I am working on my CWP to carry a firearm. I have an alarm in my house, I have an alarm to wear around my neck with a panic button. I keep tabs on him, I have 2 huge guardian dogs, a fenced in yard, I live with a biker who's a great shot, and I've had therapy for 10 years, and specialized EMDR therapy for 3 months - and I wanted VERY badly for him to "feel remorse" for the things that he did - and he does not. The only time in the last 12 years I've heard a thing from him he got our phone number and left me a message in a stern tone - saying "It's all water under the bridge to me - you need to grow up." That's as close to an apology as I'll get and it put me BACK in therapy for another 2 years. I haven't spoken to him in 12 years - I have no intention of even allowing him to SEE me ever. And like I said if he comes near me HE gets 1 chance to leave by his own volition. One. [/I][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][I]And I say this to you at 43 - with a good 12 years of therapy under my belt and being very well read. I know what she's going through. Eventually in time - she'll realize that confrontation is NOT the best revenge. When you get to a point in your life that you forget someone - they cease to exist in your mind, when they cease to exist - you have more room to fill in your head with good and positive things. [/I][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][I]All my hugs to you and yours Jo. [/I][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][I]Star[/I][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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