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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 160411" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>Jo, unless she thinks it will do <em>her</em> a lot of good to "unload" on him at his parole hearing, unless she really thinks that it will help her put it all behind her, there isn't a lot of sense in her going. Will this hearing be held in a State prison? They can be very intimidating places if you're not familiar with them. For some people going to parole hearings, just the process of entering a prison can be a frightening ordeal ... being patted down and frisk searched, going through the metal detectors, all the heavy metal gates slamming behind you, other inmates milling around. And also bear in mind that many times the <em>inmate's</em> family is also there to attend the hearing and to give moral support. They take great care to keep the victims and the inmates family separate, but they still might be there.</p><p> </p><p>I have worked in a State prison for the last 22 years and our parole hearings are conducted in a conference room at one end of the hallway where our offices are. And trust me on this one ... they're ALL sorry at their parole hearings! They're so full of anguish and regret for what they've done, the people they've harmed. They apologize profusely. Some of them even cry and say that their mama didn't raise them that way. But they've miraculously <em>changed</em> and now they see the error of their ways ... maybe they've even "<em>found the Lord</em>"! <strong>And it's the biggest load of pure B.S. horse-hockey there ever was!</strong> They'll say whatever they think the parole board wants to hear, they say anything they think might sway the decision in their favor. They ARE sorry they got caught, and they ARE sorry that they're in prison and not out in the streets still doing whatever it was that sent them to prison in the first place! But that's about as far as it goes. What I'm saying is that it will be quite an ordeal for her just going in to attend the hearing. And when she gets there he may very well weep and wail and beg for her forgiveness ... <strong>and he will not mean one single word of it!</strong> She needs to understand that more than likely it's all B.S., it's not a bit sincere, and that even if he says it it won't mean a thing because he doesn't mean it! She can submit a written victims statement and it will be read at his hearing - she doesn't have to be there. Or, she may be allowed to have her statement videotaped to be played at his hearing, without her being there in person.</p><p> </p><p>Parole hearings are set automatically after so many years of incarceration but that doesn't mean that he will be paroled. The first ones are usually just a legal formality. Even Charles Manson has parole hearings every few years! Our parole board is very conservative and almost nobody is granted parole at their first hearing ... especially the sex offenders. Probably what they will do is put him off for a period of time and then he will be granted another hearing. And most sex offenders are required to attend lots of therapeudic programs and evaluations before ever being even considered for parole. The chances of him actually being approved for parole are very slim. Do they have something similar to our Victims Compensation Fund in your state? Your daughter may be eligible to receive counseling or other assistance that HE will partially pay for by having the majority of his tiny wages from his prison job withdrawn and put into the fund that goes to their victims. Our inmates whine and cry about most of their wages being taken ... too bad ... so sad!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 160411, member: 1883"] Jo, unless she thinks it will do [I]her[/I] a lot of good to "unload" on him at his parole hearing, unless she really thinks that it will help her put it all behind her, there isn't a lot of sense in her going. Will this hearing be held in a State prison? They can be very intimidating places if you're not familiar with them. For some people going to parole hearings, just the process of entering a prison can be a frightening ordeal ... being patted down and frisk searched, going through the metal detectors, all the heavy metal gates slamming behind you, other inmates milling around. And also bear in mind that many times the [I]inmate's[/I] family is also there to attend the hearing and to give moral support. They take great care to keep the victims and the inmates family separate, but they still might be there. I have worked in a State prison for the last 22 years and our parole hearings are conducted in a conference room at one end of the hallway where our offices are. And trust me on this one ... they're ALL sorry at their parole hearings! They're so full of anguish and regret for what they've done, the people they've harmed. They apologize profusely. Some of them even cry and say that their mama didn't raise them that way. But they've miraculously [I]changed[/I] and now they see the error of their ways ... maybe they've even "[I]found the Lord[/I]"! [B]And it's the biggest load of pure B.S. horse-hockey there ever was![/B] They'll say whatever they think the parole board wants to hear, they say anything they think might sway the decision in their favor. They ARE sorry they got caught, and they ARE sorry that they're in prison and not out in the streets still doing whatever it was that sent them to prison in the first place! But that's about as far as it goes. What I'm saying is that it will be quite an ordeal for her just going in to attend the hearing. And when she gets there he may very well weep and wail and beg for her forgiveness ... [B]and he will not mean one single word of it![/B] She needs to understand that more than likely it's all B.S., it's not a bit sincere, and that even if he says it it won't mean a thing because he doesn't mean it! She can submit a written victims statement and it will be read at his hearing - she doesn't have to be there. Or, she may be allowed to have her statement videotaped to be played at his hearing, without her being there in person. Parole hearings are set automatically after so many years of incarceration but that doesn't mean that he will be paroled. The first ones are usually just a legal formality. Even Charles Manson has parole hearings every few years! Our parole board is very conservative and almost nobody is granted parole at their first hearing ... especially the sex offenders. Probably what they will do is put him off for a period of time and then he will be granted another hearing. And most sex offenders are required to attend lots of therapeudic programs and evaluations before ever being even considered for parole. The chances of him actually being approved for parole are very slim. Do they have something similar to our Victims Compensation Fund in your state? Your daughter may be eligible to receive counseling or other assistance that HE will partially pay for by having the majority of his tiny wages from his prison job withdrawn and put into the fund that goes to their victims. Our inmates whine and cry about most of their wages being taken ... too bad ... so sad! [/QUOTE]
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