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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 116373" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Worried</p><p></p><p>I understand your concern for the girl and your son.</p><p></p><p>I can't say the parents of this girl have/haven't done all they could. BUT I can say that at this girl's current age unless she is WILLING to participate in treatment, there isn't much they can do to force it. In many states the laws are stated that way. And boy, do I think that is so wrong. Unfortunately unless this girl is a danger to herself/others there is no way to force her. Even if you could force treatment it wouldn't work because there is no way to enforce her to stick to the treatment/medications ect. </p><p></p><p>At this point unless the girl is a danger to herself/others it's doubtful cps would even look at the case. Stinks, but that's the way it is.</p><p></p><p>Trust in the way you raised your son to be. I know that can be hard to do. But you taught him all the right stuff. You've given him the right tools. He just needs to learn how to apply it to his own life.</p><p></p><p>In my daughter with her similar relationship I do see positive changes in her thinking. I hear it in the way she speaks to him. I see it in the way she acts. But it has taken time for her to get there. It's taken time for her to SEE it for herself, to apply what she was taught.</p><p></p><p>Will she and b/f stay together? I haven't a clue. (and God I hope not) But I do see her maturing and growing and learning to see relationships in a different way.</p><p></p><p>I know it's hard to watch your child being treated badly by someone who is supposed to care about them. I know it's horribly frustrating when you can see the situation so clearly but your child can't seem to grasp it. (think of the not seeing the forest thru the trees thing)</p><p></p><p>I've been living my own version for 3 very long years.</p><p></p><p>With your son being in service the situation might resolve itself given enough time. Odds are the girl, at her age, isn't going to want to wait around for an absent boyfriend. Likewise, at his age....it can get awfully lonely away from home. Might help them both get some perspective on the "relationship". Plus your son will be in constant contact with many older more mature people. Hopefully that will help your son to see how immature this girl is.</p><p></p><p>What we mean by detaching.....well, that doesn't mean you don't care......It just means that we've learned to let go of situations that we have no control over to change.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 116373, member: 84"] Worried I understand your concern for the girl and your son. I can't say the parents of this girl have/haven't done all they could. BUT I can say that at this girl's current age unless she is WILLING to participate in treatment, there isn't much they can do to force it. In many states the laws are stated that way. And boy, do I think that is so wrong. Unfortunately unless this girl is a danger to herself/others there is no way to force her. Even if you could force treatment it wouldn't work because there is no way to enforce her to stick to the treatment/medications ect. At this point unless the girl is a danger to herself/others it's doubtful cps would even look at the case. Stinks, but that's the way it is. Trust in the way you raised your son to be. I know that can be hard to do. But you taught him all the right stuff. You've given him the right tools. He just needs to learn how to apply it to his own life. In my daughter with her similar relationship I do see positive changes in her thinking. I hear it in the way she speaks to him. I see it in the way she acts. But it has taken time for her to get there. It's taken time for her to SEE it for herself, to apply what she was taught. Will she and b/f stay together? I haven't a clue. (and God I hope not) But I do see her maturing and growing and learning to see relationships in a different way. I know it's hard to watch your child being treated badly by someone who is supposed to care about them. I know it's horribly frustrating when you can see the situation so clearly but your child can't seem to grasp it. (think of the not seeing the forest thru the trees thing) I've been living my own version for 3 very long years. With your son being in service the situation might resolve itself given enough time. Odds are the girl, at her age, isn't going to want to wait around for an absent boyfriend. Likewise, at his age....it can get awfully lonely away from home. Might help them both get some perspective on the "relationship". Plus your son will be in constant contact with many older more mature people. Hopefully that will help your son to see how immature this girl is. What we mean by detaching.....well, that doesn't mean you don't care......It just means that we've learned to let go of situations that we have no control over to change. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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