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<blockquote data-quote="Peaceful" data-source="post: 113760" data-attributes="member: 4459"><p>KLMNO, thanks for your post. You opinion is appreciated and welcome. Not sure why you felt you needed to stay out of it or to post at this time. Anyone is welcome to share their experience, strength and hope at any time.</p><p></p><p>We want is a functioning, safe household. I'm not going to continue to sacrifice my family on the altar of the ODD that difficult child has.</p><p></p><p>Perhaps, I didn't respond to Nancy or was unclear. We don't call the PO when she sasses back. We call the PO when she violates the court order. She's not to swear per the judge's order. She's to do as she's asked per the PO. I called due to her violating those things. If she sasses, that's irrelvant as long as she's not swearing and not refusing to comply.</p><p></p><p>What would be the point of being ticked? That would only hurt me and my family. We're doing what the professionals have told us to do even if it took us a year to do it hoping it would change. I'm sure you understand what it's like to wait to do things in the hopes that it'll change. </p><p></p><p>The courts didn't ask for the good stuff but I feel it's important to do, so I'm giving them that too. If they don't want it, they'll let me know. I'll still let difficult child know at home. </p><p></p><p>What they made us swear to in court is that we'll report what we're reporting. Otherwise, why bother with involving them? </p><p></p><p>What baiting are you referring to? </p><p></p><p>I never raise my voice in our household. Never. My friends ask me how I can possibly do this. My nickname is Miss Serene. LOL! They've been here when difficult child is at her worst and watch me (and my husband although at times he'll finally yell) tell her calmly to go to her safe spot, get control of herself and, when she's ready, come back to us. It's hard for me to do this. But it has to be done. If I can't control myself, why would I ask her to control herself?</p><p></p><p>I don't resent her being here. I'm disgusted at times by her actions. She didn't ask for her disorders and I know she doesn't want to walk around and live with them on a daily basis. Who would? But she has to learn to function appropriately with them. </p><p></p><p>We've tried behavioral therapy, cognitive therapy, DBT, occupational therapy, art therapy, a dog theraputic program (with her own theraputic dog), the psychiatric hospital, PHP, SED classes, guided imagery, mindful meditation, yoga, light therapy, theraputic horseback riding, speech language therapy, every medication out there and every tool ever recommended by a professional has been provided for her yet she chooses not to use any tools she's asked for and says she will use to no avail.</p><p></p><p>So at this point, there's no need to beat ourselves up over it not working. It just is. So now we move to the next step in an informed, controlled and methodical manner to see if it will work. If not, then we go to the next step and so on. </p><p></p><p>I hope your difficult child continues to improve. You didn't mention if he was violent and harming others. I hope not but if he is, I hope your home is a safe and functioning one for everyone involved.</p><p></p><p>Peaceful</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Peaceful, post: 113760, member: 4459"] KLMNO, thanks for your post. You opinion is appreciated and welcome. Not sure why you felt you needed to stay out of it or to post at this time. Anyone is welcome to share their experience, strength and hope at any time. We want is a functioning, safe household. I'm not going to continue to sacrifice my family on the altar of the ODD that difficult child has. Perhaps, I didn't respond to Nancy or was unclear. We don't call the PO when she sasses back. We call the PO when she violates the court order. She's not to swear per the judge's order. She's to do as she's asked per the PO. I called due to her violating those things. If she sasses, that's irrelvant as long as she's not swearing and not refusing to comply. What would be the point of being ticked? That would only hurt me and my family. We're doing what the professionals have told us to do even if it took us a year to do it hoping it would change. I'm sure you understand what it's like to wait to do things in the hopes that it'll change. The courts didn't ask for the good stuff but I feel it's important to do, so I'm giving them that too. If they don't want it, they'll let me know. I'll still let difficult child know at home. What they made us swear to in court is that we'll report what we're reporting. Otherwise, why bother with involving them? What baiting are you referring to? I never raise my voice in our household. Never. My friends ask me how I can possibly do this. My nickname is Miss Serene. LOL! They've been here when difficult child is at her worst and watch me (and my husband although at times he'll finally yell) tell her calmly to go to her safe spot, get control of herself and, when she's ready, come back to us. It's hard for me to do this. But it has to be done. If I can't control myself, why would I ask her to control herself? I don't resent her being here. I'm disgusted at times by her actions. She didn't ask for her disorders and I know she doesn't want to walk around and live with them on a daily basis. Who would? But she has to learn to function appropriately with them. We've tried behavioral therapy, cognitive therapy, DBT, occupational therapy, art therapy, a dog theraputic program (with her own theraputic dog), the psychiatric hospital, PHP, SED classes, guided imagery, mindful meditation, yoga, light therapy, theraputic horseback riding, speech language therapy, every medication out there and every tool ever recommended by a professional has been provided for her yet she chooses not to use any tools she's asked for and says she will use to no avail. So at this point, there's no need to beat ourselves up over it not working. It just is. So now we move to the next step in an informed, controlled and methodical manner to see if it will work. If not, then we go to the next step and so on. I hope your difficult child continues to improve. You didn't mention if he was violent and harming others. I hope not but if he is, I hope your home is a safe and functioning one for everyone involved. Peaceful [/QUOTE]
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