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<blockquote data-quote="Ehlena" data-source="post: 420068" data-attributes="member: 6097"><p>We've discussed a full neuropsychologist evaluation, and I'll be bringing it up with the social worker at our next meeting. We just can't seem to get him stabilized. His behavior just keeps getting worse.</p><p> </p><p>Visits with his bio are closely supervised. Phone calls must be supervised, and the person who is supervising must be in the same room at all times. The other people involved in our case have pretty much had it with her. The social worker apparently can't even talk to her, because she can't get the bio to understand that this is about difficult child not her. So bio just ends up yelling at the social worker. She will not discipline difficult child at all, and lets him talk about all sorts of inappropriate things (drugs, racist remarks, excessive swearing, detailed threats about killing his caretakers).</p><p> </p><p>Although the social worker has, in the past, encouraged us towards reunification, she's told us that she doesn't want to set us up for failure - and she can see that difficult child would just act up more severely if returned to our care right now. He's behaving ok right now at our visits - though we've endured a couple of meltdowns. Honestly I can't see taking him back right now. I hate to say it, but I am afraid of him. I used to lock our bedroom door at night (we installed a lock after he was caught taking things from our room) because I was genuinely afraid he might try something. I have this horrible thought that if he got it in his head that killing his dad and I would get him back with his mom, he'd do it. One of the things in his psychiatric evaluation was his elaborate violent fantasies.</p><p> </p><p>He used to be such a sweet kid. His fifth grade teacher told us that she wished every kid in her class were like difficult child. I still have the little arts and crafts things he made for me in my cubicle. I still see glimpses of that kid sometimes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ehlena, post: 420068, member: 6097"] We've discussed a full neuropsychologist evaluation, and I'll be bringing it up with the social worker at our next meeting. We just can't seem to get him stabilized. His behavior just keeps getting worse. Visits with his bio are closely supervised. Phone calls must be supervised, and the person who is supervising must be in the same room at all times. The other people involved in our case have pretty much had it with her. The social worker apparently can't even talk to her, because she can't get the bio to understand that this is about difficult child not her. So bio just ends up yelling at the social worker. She will not discipline difficult child at all, and lets him talk about all sorts of inappropriate things (drugs, racist remarks, excessive swearing, detailed threats about killing his caretakers). Although the social worker has, in the past, encouraged us towards reunification, she's told us that she doesn't want to set us up for failure - and she can see that difficult child would just act up more severely if returned to our care right now. He's behaving ok right now at our visits - though we've endured a couple of meltdowns. Honestly I can't see taking him back right now. I hate to say it, but I am afraid of him. I used to lock our bedroom door at night (we installed a lock after he was caught taking things from our room) because I was genuinely afraid he might try something. I have this horrible thought that if he got it in his head that killing his dad and I would get him back with his mom, he'd do it. One of the things in his psychiatric evaluation was his elaborate violent fantasies. He used to be such a sweet kid. His fifth grade teacher told us that she wished every kid in her class were like difficult child. I still have the little arts and crafts things he made for me in my cubicle. I still see glimpses of that kid sometimes. [/QUOTE]
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