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<blockquote data-quote="Ehlena" data-source="post: 421343" data-attributes="member: 6097"><p>I know that difficult child suffered a good deal of neglect when living with bio-mom, and, given some behaviors, probable sexual abuse. When my father-in-law confronted bio-mom, she admitted that difficult child had probably seen her in the act, and that he had been present in the room when she was watching pornography. That's all she would admit to, and difficult child refused to talk about it in therapy.</p><p> </p><p>I'm not sure the school is Plan A yet. Right now we are working on getting difficult child on an appropriate medication (he's been off medications for a while because of interactions with drugs and alcohol). difficult child has already been moved from his PRIOR school due to similar issues. I think it might be possible to keep him in his current school if he has something to help him control his impulsive behaviors. And we would hate to move him yet again only to run into the same problem. We can't move him from school to school forever. If we move him to another school, we'll need his buy-in.</p><p> </p><p>Unfortunately, difficult child is already familiar with the relevant sections of the court documents, and the social worker has already explained to him exactly why he can't go to live with his mother. Not only does he see the social worker as a b!tch, but he sees the whole system of CPS and the courts as against him. I wish there were some way to get him to really SEE the truth, but he doesn't seem to see it even when it is written in black and white on court documents. I am not joking - it is THAT bad. He still complains and thinks it's unfair that his visits with us are unsupervised, and the visits with his mother are closely supervised. I was in the room when the social worker spelled out to him why. She told him that his mother and his aunt lied to her repeatedly, she has not followed the case plan, and his mother relapsed recently. She told him that we have completed our part of the case plan and have been nothing but open and honest with her. I don't know how much more clear it can get. This is not the only conversation difficult child has been a party to explaining similar things.</p><p> </p><p>We're meeting with the social worker tomorrow. Going to discuss getting difficult child on medication ASAP and bring up getting him a neuropsychologist evaluation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ehlena, post: 421343, member: 6097"] I know that difficult child suffered a good deal of neglect when living with bio-mom, and, given some behaviors, probable sexual abuse. When my father-in-law confronted bio-mom, she admitted that difficult child had probably seen her in the act, and that he had been present in the room when she was watching pornography. That's all she would admit to, and difficult child refused to talk about it in therapy. I'm not sure the school is Plan A yet. Right now we are working on getting difficult child on an appropriate medication (he's been off medications for a while because of interactions with drugs and alcohol). difficult child has already been moved from his PRIOR school due to similar issues. I think it might be possible to keep him in his current school if he has something to help him control his impulsive behaviors. And we would hate to move him yet again only to run into the same problem. We can't move him from school to school forever. If we move him to another school, we'll need his buy-in. Unfortunately, difficult child is already familiar with the relevant sections of the court documents, and the social worker has already explained to him exactly why he can't go to live with his mother. Not only does he see the social worker as a b!tch, but he sees the whole system of CPS and the courts as against him. I wish there were some way to get him to really SEE the truth, but he doesn't seem to see it even when it is written in black and white on court documents. I am not joking - it is THAT bad. He still complains and thinks it's unfair that his visits with us are unsupervised, and the visits with his mother are closely supervised. I was in the room when the social worker spelled out to him why. She told him that his mother and his aunt lied to her repeatedly, she has not followed the case plan, and his mother relapsed recently. She told him that we have completed our part of the case plan and have been nothing but open and honest with her. I don't know how much more clear it can get. This is not the only conversation difficult child has been a party to explaining similar things. We're meeting with the social worker tomorrow. Going to discuss getting difficult child on medication ASAP and bring up getting him a neuropsychologist evaluation. [/QUOTE]
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