Haven't seen you for a while, yayita.
We had problems like this with difficult child 3. The school was slack, frankly, and the staff were never going to change. I managed to get some extra support funding for playground supervision, they hired an aide specifically for that job. While he had this in place a VAST amount of problem behaviours simply stopped, his anxiety went down and behaviour improved. Also, bullies were being caught in the act.
Unfortunately, i was not able to get it to continue, since the District office were sure that teacher supervision in future would be enough. it never was.
There was a time when difficult child 3 did have a playground buddy though. It was nothing put in place formally, just another kid who liked difficult child 3 and seemed to understand him. This buddy would stick up for difficult child 3, would be a witness when difficult child 3 was not believed and it was really helpful. Unfortunately they moved away and difficult child 3 was alone again.
Eventually we left the school. You can't change them. We were able to find another school about half an hour's drive away which had good playground supervision and a strict policy in dealing with bullies.
Yayita, she sounds so much like difficult child 3 in her social inappropriateness. Have you done the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) test on her, from http://www.childbrain.com? If she scores as Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) in that it would explain a lot. It would also explain why she keeps getting picked on by teachers as well as students and why she is not believed (even though she is truthful). it would also explain why she is so truthful (a very good trait but not good for survival in the playground).
Although the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) test is not diagnostic you can print it out and take it to the specialist for his opinion. THAT can be diagnostic. And such a diagnosis SHOULD get the school staff being a bit easier on her.
Do let us know how you get on with it all.
Marg
