I hear you all loud and clear. The better decisions that I can see are that he is working a job and instead of making the decision to go back to his previous job and living situation, which were offered to him upon his return but was nothing but
party central, he's decided against it and wants to go in a different direction in life. He is still falling back on old thinking patterns in asking me for assistance and if he wasn't showing me something different in his behavior, I would not have offered with a huge contingency. I appreciate all your hard earned wisdom.
